Newlywed Dread?

@Jshean20 (14362)
Canada
December 9, 2006 11:43pm CST
Did you and your newlywed experience hard times in the beginning? Were things a lot tougher than you ever pictured it? Were they a lot different from when you were just dating? Share your "newlywed" experiences here. If you're not married yet, do you have a fear of things changing because of marriage? Do you shy away from marriage because of this?
9 responses
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
10 Dec 06
when i married my ex husband, the first 1 was hard and it only got harder, that is why we are not married anymore. the thing that made it really hard in the begining was that i moved 2400 miles away from my family with him, he was in the army.
@Jshean20 (14362)
• Canada
13 Dec 06
thank you
• United States
10 Dec 06
Marriage, in my opinion is always a challenge. It has it's ups and downs. Struggles of money, kids, homes, vacations, in laws, and so forth. But, if you are married to the right person, as I am for 30 years, it is awesome, and wonderful.
@Jshean20 (14362)
• Canada
11 Dec 06
thank you..30 years..that's great! :)
@Lydia1901 (16353)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Nope, that didn't happen to me before.
@Jshean20 (14362)
• Canada
11 Dec 06
OK thanks
@nuel_h (1593)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 06
my brother is a newlywed, and say yes, its harder esp in financially picture. thanks 4 ur post, have a gut day, and ALWAYS give best response, +, - for people who are really deserved to earn more and help the community to grow
@Jshean20 (14362)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
Thanks for the tips and your response :)
• United States
12 Dec 06
When I first married we were fine. It was after kids that the finances were horrid and he couldn't handle any type of responsibility at all. Give him an ounce of trouble to deal with and he'd run. I actually found I was quite ready for the marriage aspect, even though I was only 20!!!!!! We remained married for 20 years, although we were separated by 16 years or so.
• United States
12 Dec 06
No things weren't too different after me and my husband got married, but we did live together and already have our daughter before we were married. It was kinda nice to already know you can live together, we already knew all of each others little annoyances.
• United States
11 Dec 06
Me and my husband are newlyweds. we have been together for a while so we have experienced a lot of drama. When we first moved in together it was hard. he is 5 years older then me and I had never lived with a mate before. I was so used to being able to come and go as i please. He had a way of talking to me like a child and I cursed him out a lot for that. It was just a communication gap that was mutuaol between the both of us. I wouldnt trade any of our problem for the world. it made us better lovers
• United States
11 Dec 06
We got pregnant right away, so we had a hard time adjusting to my hormones. And then adjusting to being three instead of two, but I think it is always that way with big changes, we are very happy now.
@happygal68 (3277)
• United States
11 Dec 06
Whether you are a newlywed or married for 50 years, it will always take lots of hard work and commitment from both parties. You will always have trials and tribulations that you will face together, the difference of making it through them is that you communicate and work together on overcoming them. If you really truly love one another you will always try to work through the major stuff and not sweat the little things.