A depressed wife (a friend of mine) in Maryland

@utsadetti (4589)
United States
December 12, 2006 6:10pm CST
I have a friend form my country (indonesia). Four years ago she came to study in Maryland. After one year studying, she got acquintance with a young handsome guy from DC. After a couple of months, they decided to get married, because my friend didn't want to live together without marriage. Because she loved him very much, she was willing to convert religion, to follow him. But after 2 years of their marriage, my friend started realize that she had a problem with the extreme differences in terms of small things, like the food, the drink, how to maintain house, how to behave when the friends come, etc. When once she lost temper, she got mad at him. Surprisingly, he was yelling at her too! Then she realized that he didn't love her anymore. She kept silent and silent. Never talk to him, just kept her in her bedroom. While her husband starting having affair outside, and went home very late at night. Now, she doesn't want to continue studying, doesn't want to go back home to my country. Depressed and hopeless. What can I do to advice or to help her?
4 responses
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
14 Dec 06
That is a terrible situation. First though she has to help herself. Can you call her? Maybe you could go get her and let her stay with you for a few days and get her out of the house. It might help her get a new perspective on things.
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
15 Dec 06
That's not possible, because i am just travelling around. I don't stay in US. I must be back soon to my country. Maybe i should tell her family there.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
15 Dec 06
That would be a good idea, I think.
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Yeah, the only problem is how to bring her back to my country if the situation get worse.
@lovein (345)
• India
15 Dec 06
If I take bath in one day, I can not take bath in another day. ?? I have taken food in one day, I can not take food in another day?? If your friend will not marry any one, the she will say me "truth". If your friend will marry some one, she will say me "false" Thanks
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
15 Dec 06
what do you mean by this response?
@anup12 (4180)
• India
15 Dec 06
Very sad situation really but you must consult a doctor about the problem and he should be able to give a good suggestion of what to do next
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Yeah, i've called her. but she didn't say even a word.
@Kylalynn (1773)
• South Africa
13 Dec 06
What a sad situation. Can you take her to the doctor, he will know best what to do. Take care.
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
13 Dec 06
I will take her to the doctor, but she is in maryland, and i am in Pennsylvania. I called her husband to take care of her. But i don't know the progress until now.