Are You a Pushover?

United States
January 7, 2007 12:23am CST
Today a friend of mine called and asked me for a favor, and it got me thinking about being a pushover. I don't know why I find it so hard to say no to people when they ask me for things that I wish they wouldn't. I find myself always helping people with things that they should be doing themselves. Why is it so hard to say no? Sometimes I try, and I end up still doing what they ask me to.
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• United States
10 Jan 07
I to have a hard time saying no. I am one of those people where I try to make happy. This can lead to depretion and so forth. I have started to say no but now that I am raising my sisters two kids I am more concerned about them and their needs not my friends. It is hard to say no but at somepoint we all must stand up for ourself and say no.
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• United States
11 Jan 07
Yes. There are times, where I have stopped. because I knew for a fact that I was being used. But, with many of my friends, it is hard to stop doing the things that they ask, because I do consider them my friends. However, if it comes to the point where they are not there for me, as I have been there for them, than I know I will stop doing things for them.
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• United States
11 Jan 07
yes same here I to do things for others as long as they are there for me when I need help that is when you know who your true friends are. When they dont help me I tend to stray from that friend ship. I say it takes two to tango
@krysy1982 (1041)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I am the same way. It is very hard for me to tell someone no I can't do that.
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11 Jan 07
Yea, the small things i do for people, and sometimes the way i forgive people just like that makes me think am i a pushover? sometimes noa nd sometimes yes. i do find it hard saying no to people i dont like but not to those who i do like, if u get what im saying.. im not sur if this makes me a pushover tho lol
• United States
16 Jan 07
You're just too nice. I find it hard to say no to friends too. But I don't mind doing things for my close friends. I enjoy it because I know they would do the same for me. I had friends that seemed like users so I let them go and don't talk to them anymore. Real friends don't take advantage of you. If you're close to this person let her know how you feel.