What should I do? My twin brother has been married to his wife for 3 years now
January 8, 2007 6:52pm CST
And all he does is complain he does not helo her with their financing or anything but when it comes down to it he gets mad at her and all he does is complain about her and say he is sick of being married how do I make him realize that it takes two to make a marriage work and how do I make him realize that it hurts me when he says bad stuff about his wife because I love her like a sister and I hate it when he bad mouths him.. Any advice would be helpful...PLEASE...
• United States
12 Jan 07
I think they are going through a tough time right now, with the addition of the younger one on top of everything. It's going to take them both time to grow up a little more. I would tell both of them, when they start to talk about the other, that you're not trying to be mean, but that you don't want to be put in the middle anymore, and that they need to get their problems worked out together, not going to you about them. God knows, you've got enough on your plate right now without having to feel like you have to solve their problems, too. Honey, they will either work it out and grow in their marriage, or they won't, and there's nothing you can do about it.
• United States
9 Jan 07
If he is always complaining about her, I'd tell her, and then if I were her, I'd leave that guy. It does take 2 to make a marriage work, and if one of the people just wants to complain all the time and not help or put in an effort, then why bother? Move on. His complaining may lead to resentment or even physical abuse, or cheating on her. It's better to quit while you're ahead in my opinion.