Are kids out of hand these days?

@artguy (1476)
United States
January 14, 2007 9:43am CST
I think they are and I think it's do to the fact that you can't discipline your kids like you want to anymore. The government has said you can't spank your kids and now just look at the results.
5 responses
@sylvrrain (659)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I don't think it is all about spanking your children. I did not spank my children and I am proud of the way they turned out. I think the problem today is the children are not taught to respect themselves and others. Responsibity for their actions is also not taught. In most homes, both parents work to support the household, and childcare is left up to daycares, babysitters and schools. The people who take care of our children do not love them like we do. There is nothing there to help them learn to value peoples feelings. There is no one-on-one attention, very little self-esteem building, and no proper discipline. Children are spoiled, because most parents are tired and stressed and do not want to hear their child cry or complain. By giving in to them for every little thing, they grow to expect the world handed to them on a silver platter. Then they start to grow up and reality smacks them right in the face. Also remember, it is not just this generation. Look at how children were raised in the 70's and 80's. They are the parents of today. I am not saying no one is raising their children right, but it is a lot more difficult than it was in the 40's and 50's.
@allen123 (76)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I THINK CHILDREN ARE OUT OF HAND BECAUSE PARENTS ARE SCARED TOO DISCIPLINE THERE KIDS. THERE ARE WAYS TO DO IT AND NOT KILL YOUR KID I MEAN I WOULDNT LET MY KID WALK ALL OVER ME, I THINK IF BOTH PARENTS ARE INVOLVED THEY CAN TEACH A KID FROM BIRTH WHATS RIGHT AND WHATS WRONG AND THEY MIGHT EXSPLORE BUT STILL WILL DO WHATS RIGHT! IT'S ABOUT THE BOND YOU BUILD WITH YOU KID TO ME
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
I have one child and when he was about four years old, I spanked him but I noticed that he just ignored it and so I thought that what I did was not effective. I separated from my husband after living with him just for 15 days and so I'm just like a single mother with no one to help me to support and rear my child. He continued to be stubborn saying so many things to fight me back, doing things short of killing me. Looking back, the big mistake I had was not to spank him. He knows eversince that I would not as this is not me consenting to the use of physical contact. When I was converted, I read the verses on the Holy Bible that God teaches us to spank our children to discipline them and that God chastises those whom He loves. The Holy Bible also says that we should obey human laws and if therefore your country prohibits spanking, then you have to follow that. In countries where such is not prohibited, apply the necessary spanking to your children. At least you have done it, unlike myself who did not follow God's instructions and so my son, now 32 years old, does what he wants and his happiness is to make me real mad which I do not like because I'd die getting mad (I'm now 61 years old with heart ailment). I'm helpless because he doesn't want to leave me (I have been to him just a mother for convenience) and I couldn't throw him out as he is a six footer.
@pratu0708 (126)
• India
15 Jan 07
We are here in India where spanking is still not a tabboo though people are now realizing there is fine line between torture and discipline spanking. we were spanked and spanked hard with everything that came my mother's way but we took that as discipline, which is still generally the rule unless it goes really bad. I do spank my kid when needed and when she just simply chooses to disobey, i think in times of utter defiance spanking works if you give the reason and a sense of how much you hate it too to the child. and the kids these days are just too smart for us. My two-year-old has learnt to play pranks on me and tease me . They are just too fast.
@totalguy (563)
14 Jan 07
i have to agree with you there kids are out of control these days due to these rules butthere is 2 sides to the story they obviously bought this rule in to prevent child abuse which is good i agree but then also kids knowing that they cant smack you gives them the upper hand sometimes and they think they can do anything so if you cant disipline them with a smack theres not a lot else you can do in some cases. some parents have other methods that do work but these methods wont nessecarily work with all kids will it.