Do you keep secrets from your spouse?

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@devideddi (1435)
United States
January 22, 2007 6:25pm CST
For the most part I do not. Every once in a while I will tuck back a 20 dollar bill for a rainy day. But that's about it. How about you?
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@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
23 Jan 07
No, I never do. Sometimes I might with hold information for a while until it suits me to tell him, such as things I've bought, but I'd never deliberately hold anything from him. I wouldn't like him to keep secrets from me either.
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• Ireland
23 Jan 07
I don't think there's anything wrong with putting some money by now and again. I read somewhere that every woman should have her "rainy day" money. I suppose this would definately apply to those of us who mightn't have full time jobs.
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
24 Jan 07
For the most part...no. But I do. Hmmm. That is tough to answer. Its not as if I am hiding anything horrible. Just things like when I buy a book and I don't want him to know because he is always teasing me that I read too much, I will tuck it aside and then when he sees me reading it, its not as if he notices it is a new book anyways. LOL Or I talk with old friends online. Friends that I have known log before I ever met him. My partner is the jealous type and he would be upset. But I am not doing anything wrong. It is nice to hear from old friends, hear their stories of what the grew up to do, got married and have kids. But is it not something I will talk to my partner about because he just wouldn't understand. Besides, he is the one that suggested that I talk to people online because I ws getting lonely hanging around the house all the time. Then he started to get jealous of me talking to people on myLot. So...now that he has accepted me being on myLot, I am not going to press my luck or his jealousy meter.
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
23 Jan 07
i do not hide anything from my boyfriend, and i never will, that is not a relationship. he sometimes "forgets" to tell me things and it upsets me. I know sometimes it is not his fault but it like why would you not want to share things with me, i am not saying he has too, but if he loves me why wouldn't he want to share that with me.
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
23 Jan 07
No I dont either I might not tell him something right away but eventually I get to it. Its not good to keep secrets from your spouse.
@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
What can I say, I try to not keep secrets from my spouse. They always get found out sooner or later, I believe being up front & honest is the best way to go to your partner. Whether good, bad, or ugly! I find if you keep a secret from someone it just eventually will begin to eat away at one's relationship. I find it leads to distrust, but also the reason why a lot of relationships end up ending in the long run.. From personal experience when I had done this I have found that secrets only help to cause problems.. I've learned a long the way that if there's something you are hiding, it eventually does end up coming out one way or another. So just be honest to your partner so they don't have to find out later on that you had been lying to them.. Plus knowing that my partner didn't trust me would eat away at me.. I don't find living with a secret or keeping a secret from my partner is worth losing someone's trust.. Especially someone you love so deeply.. Someone who is your confidant, your best friend, & so much more.. I've always asked myself this question when it comes to secrets.. If one with holds a secret from there spouse.. How is the relationship enhanced by keeping this secret? I find the secrets that hurt the most are the one's that one may hide from there spouse.. That may end up helping the relationship come to an to end. Such as for example: Cheating. Some type of secret that will either hurt the other physically or emotionally. To me if feelings have changed it's best just to get it out in the open & see if there is anything one can do to fix things. Or if it's time for both parties to move on & go there separate ways. In conclusion.. I've always believed that honesty is the foundation for a lasting relationship! As is communication. I think if two people are faithful to each other, then why not tell the truth as well at the same time? That's how I feel on keeping secret's from one's spouse..
• United States
23 Jan 07
No, I don't. I'm a rather open person, in all aspects. I love to talk and write, so if something is going on in my life, my fiance is the first to know.
• United States
24 Jan 07
I keep some secrets from my wife and I am sure that she keeps alot from me. We are having trouble in our marriage and some things that I do she will not like so I just dont tell her and I think thats the best way to go about it. I know its wrong but that what I feel.
@stailgate (2363)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I do not keep any secrets from my spouse. I have no reason to.
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