Marriage plans

MsTickle I completely agree with you. I had stars in my eyes when I was a young girl but when I became an adult, I realized it was just a dream and not reality. I ended up being with my husband for 7 years before we said "I Do". We had already lived together for 4 years before that and had a 3 year old little boy as well. I wanted to have a big fancy wedding but as time passed, I realized it wasn't that important to me anymore. We decided to get married in the court with just one witness. We did not have anything fancy with my family either. We've been together for 20 years and married for 13. Looking back I can say I'm happy we didn't spend all that money on a big fancy one day event just to say we love each other. I'm not knocking those who do go that route, I just know how hard it is to get money in this world and can't imagine blowing $10,000 for one day. If I could redo some things I would have finished college, had a set career in place and bought a home before I had my son or got married but hindsight is 20/20 and I can't go back only forward now. I will give my son suggestions when the time comes. I've already shared some of this with him and given him examples of how life would probably be easier and better for us if we had done some things differently. Hopefully he makes smart choices when he is older. Great discussion by the way!

I completely agree! My fiance is a US Marine and we've spend a lot of time away from each other because of it. He will be home for good this summer and we are planning to move in together shortly after. Then we'll take an entire year after that before our wedding. We want that time to spend together and work out all the "kinks" before we get married. Because it is so much more than just a wedding. It's a life that you share.

Since life is a wheel of fortune, I think we can't make plans without obstacles in our way. But really organising the marriage is the most important thing. You have to live with someone for a long time in order to see how much you are connected to each other and if your natures really agree. And why all these people are having babies before getting married? I mean, don't they have ever heard about birth control?

Planning my own wedding in the future is very important for me. Maybe I would allot atleast 2-3 months of preparation. Yes sometimes couples plan a huge celebration only to find out that they will end up in divorce. Maybe the best thing to do is to stay a little longer in a relationship before deciding to get marry.

Well I was thinking before about married life together and maybe later a family. I actually thought about the whole white dress and such later on.