Weddings
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
China
January 31, 2007 8:45pm CST
After watching the show Bridezillas today I am wondering why woman go so crazy over their wedding. I mean, why can't they just make it a fun experience like every other party? How do they expect their weddings to be the best day of their life if they are being so uptight?
4 responses
@clownfish (3269)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Hi! A wedding is a big deal. Most people only want to get married once, so they want that one wedding to be as special and perfect as it can be. Also, guests coming to a wedding expect things to be perfect and wonderful and romantic and all that. There is a certain amount of pressure on brides to make everything appear perfect to their guests as well and provide good food, entertainment, etc. So, yes, a wedding is a big deal. :-)
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
• China
1 Feb 07
I am not saying its not a big deal. But why get so freaked out and upset about something if it isn't going to make anything better. It's like you are setting yourself to be miserable for the time before the wedding. Really, if you want things to be right you have to keep a level head. Besides, wouldn't your wedding be a better experience if you had fun planning it?
@clownfish (3269)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Yes, you have a point. It should be fun - the planning and the wedding day. I did a lot myself, so I probably felt a lot of pressure because of that. What gets you are the last minute things you forgot about! LOL You are right, though, there's a difference between feeling some stress and being a complete outright brat! :-)
@danjenkins (646)
• United States
1 Feb 07
The wedding ceremony is a serious experience .. it is about exchanging very serious vows. But, it should be enjoyable, which is very different from being "fun". People get uptight because they plan things to be memorable, unique and impressive .. it isn't essential for people to get so tense, but it seems impossible to talk them out of it.
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
• China
1 Feb 07
The point is, you want the experience to be memorable, right? So what do you want to remember? How stressed, rude, and ugly you acted the week or month before the wedding? Or how much fun you had planning it?
@MGjhaud (23228)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
well i feel them too, its going to happen once in your life. well unless you'll marry someone again. but really its tenseful on that very day because finally your going to leave your singlehood days and no turning back because we know what marrieage is like, right?
before when eldest brother got married, her bride felt the same way too. she said to me 'finally im getting married to your brother' and to me, my definition to that is their love will be blessed finally and their companionship will be stronger then.
wedding is exciting but at the same time scary because it means your are now responsible of your partner and so your partner to you and to your future kids. thats pretty heavy to think of that really could tense you up.
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
• China
1 Feb 07
But it doesn't have to be stressful, I know I can say that and that doesn't make it easy to just relax. But perhaps people should take the pressure off themselves and have fun with it. You may only marry once, but you only do a lot of things once...why stress about this one? You can have a great wedding without all that.
@DRoddy77 (1776)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I always wondered the same thing. I think mostly it's just a bunch of spoiled brats that want to have this dream perfect wedding and think that it has to be her way, and she has to be the "princess" for a day in her wedding. My wedding was small and modest. I was 7 months pregnant. I didnt care if a few things went wrong here or there, I was happy that I was marrying the love of my life! Right before we were about to walk down the aisle there was a tornado!...I wonder what those bridezilla's would have done then? lol
@IshidaMitsunari (1026)
• China
1 Feb 07
hehehehe! Thanks for the reply! You are right, you should be happy to be marrying the person you love. Who cares about anything else? Sure you can have a nice wedding, but things go wrong. Just be able to laugh them off.
