revenge

Welll, two, is it really revenge if you change the wording just a tiny bit and call it an act of passive/agressiveness? I must admit that there have been many times in my past that I have done some passive/aggressive acts; but no true revenge. I hope that all of that is totally out of my syestem now. I would not like to think that I would ever resort to anything unkind or hurtful to anyone; but who really knows for 100% certain what we will do if backed into a corner? ~Donna

I think the guys are usually more physical in taking revenge (hiting, kicking, and shooting) and they may try to get revenge for things that were accidents. I only "seek revenge" when I know the damage was done intentionally. The other person knew exactly what they were doing and did it anyway. Then I am really just "evening the score" and teaching them not to mess with me again.

It is probably not surprising that some people wish or fantasise about getting revenge on someone who they think has harmed them. There is actually a saying which is: "don't get mad, get even". Personally I cannot be bothered as it takes a lot of energy to get even with someone, or to take any sort of revenge. If they were once considered a friend, and the action has been deliberate, then they are not truly a friend, so scratch them off the Christmas Card list. If they weren't a friend at all, then that is not a problem either because their action was not a loss. Certainly there are some really nasty people out there, men as well as women. I am not sure which gender is worse although I suspect that there isn't all that much difference between the two when it comes to the crunch. Men might use physical violence and so will some women too, but in the main women take revenge through words which can be just as harmful as the physical violence. I am one of those who enjoys the peaceful life, and also realise that revenge serves no real purpose. All it does it set up a very bitter circle with each "victim" trying to outdo the other to get the upper hand.

Hmmm...interesting question. I can see that man would be more into seeking or following through with revenge. LOL I admit, there are many of times that I have thought of revenge and played it out in my head...but I never did it. I wouldn't do it because I know it would only cause more trouble. I have seven children that I have to think about. And for me to act upon my well thought out revenge would be selfish of me. So, even though I have thought about it and have a really good reason to do it...I know better. Two wrongs don't make it right. And one day, karma will catch up with that person.

I haven't ever acted on revenge because I think eventually it will all come back to hanunt them for things they have done in the past.Karma....

yes, probably it is more true for women