Pre Teen wants bedroom downstairs

United States
February 4, 2007 9:41pm CST
Your opinion matters. Have you had a preteen of yours ask if it was Ok for them to move to your basement? My thought is why would they want to move down there, but knowing about the privacy and have 2 much younger sisters I'm considering it, but still not sure if that much privacy is a good idea. What do you think?
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• United States
5 Feb 07
I think a preteen is a bit young to be so far away from the rest of the family -- more for safety issues. I am afraid to let my 13 year old move down into the bedroom in our basement because I worry about what would happen if a fire broke out -- he'd be too far away from me to get to in a hurry. I think they may just want some privacy. Do they share a bedroom now? My two boys each have their own room, so at least they have some privacy and own space. Good luck with this!
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• United States
6 Feb 07
no she has her own room now, but other little ones share a room and we would also like to either build onto the house for them to have seperate rooms or possible take the preteen up on her wanting to be downstairs. Plus understood on the safety thing, but husband is firefighter and all kids are drilled in our house on what to do "if". I know that's not alway full proof, but I am feeling a little anxiety for someone sleeping on a different level from the rest of the house. Thank you.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I'm all for it- I would love to have a finsihed basement that I could move my daughter in to. : ) No really- fix it all up with a couch and a tv.. Games, bedroom all the fixings. Of course I wouldn't let her be down there all the time- But what would it hurt. My daughter would love it too... Have friends over- watch what you want- stay up as late as you want. Talk about having 1 cool room- My daughter (10) is already talking about putting her bedroom in the loft of the garage in the next few years- YEAH RIGHT! lol that won't happen. So yes she is probably trying to get away from the younger kids and I see nothing wrong with it- Just set some rules.. Possibly put an intercom system in so she can get you whenever she needs or if there is an emergency. Go for it-
• United States
6 Feb 07
well let me see,..,I have a few questions for ya.how old is she again? has she been a good kid? do u trust her? has she been acting weird at all lately..secretive or anything? because i remeber that age..and the kids are even more grown at preteen than we were at teenegers!! and if shes a good kid and you trust her..and she just might need the privacy and space..lord knows i wish i had some when i was younger,,i say heck yea!!! this would mean the world to her..but if shes anything like i was..i would have snuck out and had friends come over when everyone was asleep lol!! yes i was a BADDDD GIRLLL!! LOL!! but i say let her..:)
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• United States
6 Feb 07
Yes I trust her and there is nothing differnt about her. She has sleepovers though and it's alway more than expected on amount of girls, but even then we wake up and watch where we walk around to be carfull of who we might step on. Sleepovers are far apart, not to often so don't think it has anything to do with them being sneaky. Plus we have alarms on every opening to our home and would hear anything opening, it wakes up our neighboors. If something is deactivated on alarm it woul dhave to be me to do it. I have the codes. So now that you know that stuff tell me what you think now.
• Canada
5 Feb 07
I think they are just looking for more privacy and space. they are trying to get a little more independant. now i don't see it as a problem as long as they are a good kid and you know that you can trust them. i would say let them go but warn them that if you see any changes in them or if they start hiding too much that they will be moved back up.
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• India
5 Feb 07
everyone can understand by this that there is something going in their mind
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• United States
5 Feb 07
something like what? And keep in mind that there are two very younger sisters close to her room also. Do you think that is partly a reason?
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