If you tell a child you have no money for something how would you react if

@pilbara (1436)
Australia
February 5, 2007 8:47pm CST
they then went to your purse or wallet without your knowledge, pulled out the money in it and then came back to you and said "see you do have money after all" A friend of mine had a child who did this and her response was to give them a hug and buy the thing for them anyway. I was completely apalled. What action do you think should have been taken.
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@clownfish (3276)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Hi! I think it was wrong of the parent to lie. I think it would have been better for the parent to say, "Yes, I have money, but we can't afford to buy a toy today. I don't have any extra." That's what I tell my little one and she understands. Lying to children is a very bad thing to start. It's better to tell them the truth. :-)
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
6 Feb 07
True, but the thing is that she wasn't exactly lying. She did have some money but it was budgetted for rent and groceries. She just thought her child was so clever in having done that, that he deserved the treat. At the end of the week she was upset because she didn't have enough for all the groceries.
@clownfish (3276)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Ah, the extra insight into the situation helps. I think the parent should accept some blame for lying about the money, and the child should have respected his mother's purse and not gotten into it on his own. Maybe the mother could, at the beginning of the week, tell the child that if they are very good with money and there is some left at the end of the week, or the child earns it, then he can buy a treat for himself. :-)
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@listen2me (511)
• United States
6 Feb 07
if it was at home, sit down and try to explain it as simple as possible to the child, if its done again then it should be a punishment thing. now if it was in front of a store full of people now thats a different story. azz whippin first, explain later.
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@clownfish (3276)
• United States
6 Feb 07
Why would you punish a child who has just been lied to? It's the parent who needs the azz whippin for lying to the child in the first place!
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• Canada
6 Feb 07
that's kind of cute though, depending on the age of the child though i guess. anyway the way that i would of handled it would of been just to say, yes there is money in my purse but that money is for bills or things that we actually need. I meant i don't have any spare money for gifts for you right now.
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• United States
6 Feb 07
oh myy!! I bet that child is spoiled rotten...eeekks!!I have done that..Like last week my son wanted this Hot wheels track that was $45..and i told him i didnt have the miney..and when i bought the stuff we needed he said i lied,that i did have the money..and i said hun..im sorry i should have explained..mommy doesnt have the money for that..its too much money right now..and what money i have if for stff we need at home..or i cant wash your clothes and we wont have any food to eat..do you understand? hes 4 mind you..He says ohhhh..ok mommy..next payday maybe? and i said i would try..hes very intelligent and im proud of him,and thats what she should have said..in my opinion..what ya think?
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
6 Feb 07
I agree. That's what I would have done. I was appalled because how is he supposed to learn to respect other peoples property if he was effectively rewarded for his behaviour.
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