Do you believe that people can really forget when they forgive?

Philippines
February 13, 2007 10:57am CST
AS an old saying goes... "to forgive is to forget" Do you really think that we can really forget when we forgive... Personally I dont think so...
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9 responses
@beaniegdi (1966)
26 Feb 07
I think you will find the saying is 'forgive and forget' which is slightly different. When we forgive someone it does not mean we forget the transgresion. However if some one has hurt you and you find that it is affecting your life and you think about it constantly then forgiveness may be the only way to move on. Once we have forgiven someone and begun to get on with our lives then we can stop dwelling on the thing that hurt us. However we cannot make our memories dissapear but forgiving someone fully stops us thinking about the thing that hurt us so it is no longer in our consious thoughts.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
26 Feb 07
no. id don't think its possible to forget when u forgive. Then you should be someone great.Its really hard to forget the things thAT hurt us.
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
I think some people are truly capable of this, but that that is not a good thing, but rather it can be harmful. As another poster said, you must learn from your experiences, if you forget about something that harmed you you are not learning from it you are engaging in willful ignorance. I think a more important old saying to keep in mind when dealing with things that require your forgiveness is "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me".
@nicolec (2673)
• United States
24 Feb 07
No, I think one never forgets. We might put it out of our minds for a while. But it will always linger there. And even though we may have forgiven, what ever feeling came along with whatever we had to forgive will also always be there.
@mcaf1970 (140)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
it does not apply to all. count me in. i forgave but i really couldn't forget what were done to me & to my husband. it was an excruciating pain we've gone thru. my immediate family almost ruined coz of the concocted story which 2 relative (an aunt[sis in law of my dad] & a male cousin) members spread to my sis & bro (siblings). my family almost believed the fabricated story which they made. whenever i see them, i act as if they don't exist.
@Lyrica (127)
• Canada
13 Feb 07
I think it's figurative. I think it means that if you forgive that person, you shouldn't bring up that problem again and let it go. And while you're probably not going to forget about it and thinking about it will still cause some bad feelings, don't let that be the only thing that you think of when you think of that person.
• United States
13 Feb 07
I am only human. I have to say no to this. I have tried to forget but it's hard. I even have a hard time forgiving some things. When it's about disrespecting me it's almost never forgiven.
@ginny36 (267)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Not exactly. We can't erase our pain or anger over a wrong we feel has been done to us. What we can do is decide that having the person in our lives and having a good relationship to that person means enough to us to try to put those feelings aside and let them heal.
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
nope.. its not really possible... you can forget if someone means, "not to mention it again" or "not to bring it up again"... i dont know but whoever made that saying, must have explained it more to other people who are using the same phrase as a loophole for the bad things they did intentionally... peace out ;)