nosy friend...
By itsjustmeb
@itsjustmeb (1212)
Canada
February 14, 2007 11:46pm CST
How do you politely tell someone that you do not want to keep discussing the same thing over and over again?
A friend of mine keeps insisting on talking about the fact that my ex (who is also her ex, please don't ask!) may be going to jail, due to uttering death threats to me. I keep trying to change the subject, because to be honest A: I don't care if he shows up for his first appearance, and B: I don't feel good about this case as it stands because he might end up in jail due to this - and we have kids together.
So how do I politely say enough is enough, stop trying to talk about him, I don't care, ??
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4 responses
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Quite plainly tell her that enough is enough. Explain your reasoning to her. Tell her, that because of the things you listed above, you just don't want to speak of it anymore. Anytime she starts to bring it up, get up and leave the room or something. Anything drastic enough to get her to stop talking about it.
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@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I know. I mean I feel bad about this as it is, and its like every conversation she brings it up and it really bothers me to keep talking about the same thing over and over..
@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I would just tell her that you don't want to discuss it anymore. You could say that you want to keep any talk about him off limits or that subject anyway. If she continues, simply ignore her. If she's really your friend she will stop asking questions and trying to make you talk about it. That's what I would do anyway. Good luck..notice I didn't ask..lol
@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
15 Feb 07
not an easy situation to be in....i would either ask her why she feels the need to talk about him so much or...you may just have to be blunt and say that you already feel bad enough, you dont want to discuss it all the time.
personally i think your friend should have a little more empathy for you in this situation as it isnt easy for you. and it doesnt matter who was the ex first...she should consider what you went through and that you have children to worry about.
does she not see what he has done is wrong? maybe sit down and discuss that side with her and then tell her how you feel.
if all else fails...distance yourself a little maybe which im sure you dont want to do.
good luck
@samtaylorskykierajen (7976)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I'm not sure if there would be a polite way that you can tell her especially if you have hinted by trying to changet the subject and she still keeps bringing it up , but maybe you could tell her that you need to talk to her and that you don't want to make a big deal out of it but that you really can't handle it when she brings this up over and over again and that you would really apprecaite if she just wouldn't bring it up anymore and maybe explain to her or give her a reason , like it just makes you feel bad for the rest of the day , or whatever it is you would like to say and that you just can't handle it anymore and would really appreiciate her trying to see it from your side and that you would hope that as your friend she will understand .
Best of Luck !!
