Does it make you angry when---?
By moonmagick
@moonmagick (1458)
United States
February 16, 2007 10:47pm CST
I recently posted a discussion. Big surprise, LOL. When I post discussions, I try very hard to go back and respond to each and every reply that someone puts. Its just my thing. If I dont agree, I still reply, and either explain why I dont agree, or in the very least thank them for responding. I find it irritating when people dont answer the post, just put something silly like "i dont agree" or "this bores me". When I get those, I usually respond with why, or please explain and move on. But recently I got a really long answer that showed the person read part of the post, but not the whole thing. This response more or less answered a question they created, not mine. But their response was very long and thought out, so rather than be rude, I simply put "Thank you for your input" I went back the next day and checked my discussion. This person had responded again wanting to know why I gave longer replies to others and didnt seem to consider their response. So at this point, I told them why. I explained that they read the first few lines and assumed what my question was, instead of reading the whole thing and finding out what it was. And that is why I didnt respond in length to them. I didnt rate them a negative or anything. I just didnt rate it. They responded again today and said, oh sorry, I did misread it. Which is all fine and good. My question is, does it upset you when people dont respond to the question you asked? And especially when they get in an uproar when you dont reply to them?
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9 responses
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
18 Feb 07
I have not really had any experience when it comes to someone asking why i did not reply in a better matter. I have however received my fair share of those waste of time sort of responses and what i do is usually leave them a comment. Depending on what it was said of course i will either tell them not to respond this way again or i respond in a cheaky way so that if they do return than they also know that i am upset and them for wasting my time!
@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
18 Feb 07
What killed me, is at least I was polite. I could have said "read the post" or something along those lines. Oh well. This world takes all kinds. Like I mentioned before, I was just a little frustrated that they would get angry at me for not giving them a better quality feedback when they didnt even read the discussion to begin with.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
18 Feb 07
this morning, i read responses like "yeah, right" and "wow! that's good". to think that my discussion really ask for something that is experienced by them. i did not comment on them anymore. since they don't actually go back to the comments done on their responses. it's as if these people don't care at all. they just respond to see their points get higher.
and yep. there are those who never read the entire discussion. those who just read the title and assume that the body of the discussion says the same.
i don't really get angry to people who do this. but usually, i get irritated and annoyed.
i don't comment to all responses actually. i only comment to those i have more thoughts on it or if just like you, i disagree with what they say. so, there goes the real "discussion". and that's why we're all here. do discuss matters and not just post responses.
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
18 Feb 07
In completely agree with you. I thought this place was to have discussions and share ideas and opinions. But there are definately some people who are just here to post and get points and a little money.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
18 Feb 07
It is very annoying when someone replys to your discussion, but it's obvious that they didn't read the whole thing. I've had that happen a few times and I just have to wonder what they are trying to do.
When they assume things is pretty bad too. I read one post about a soap opera and someone replied - get a life, get off the couch and stop eating those bonbons. That one made me realize how ignorant people really are!
It's really kinda humorous sometimes!!!
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Most of the time, I read it and move on. Sometimes its good for a laugh. The reason this one upset me was because they actually got angry at me for not giving them the same long lengthy feedback that the others who actually replied to the discussion at hand got. I am so over it now. I was just a little frustrated when I initially read theirn response.
@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
Well for me, I cant respond to every post when there are like over 80 of them, so if you do that, I commend you. (hmmmm maybe that's why youre rated a 10 and I'm still only rated an 8? :)
I personally would have just ignored that person who asked "Why you didn't post a longer response to his or her inquiry" but that's just me. So I guess the answer is, no it woudlnt' make me angry. Also I dont rate people at all who just do one liners unless they say something totally incredible in that one line, which has never happenned. I think lots of people just answer every single question, without really reading it, just to get the money that mylot promises, which I don't think it right. It's these people that I just don't rate. So far I have never rated anyone negative. I think I only would if they were really rude or something.
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I guess angry was maybe a harsh word. Frustrated is more like it. I am not sure why I feel compelled to answer every post, I just do.
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Yikes... hope it wasn't one of mine... ;-)
I admire the fact that you comment back to people-- that makes you an excellent "topic host," in my esteem.
I do get upset when people want to (or seem to) start an argument over the alleged "quality" of their responses. I realize that not everybody will know the answer to every question-- and although I personally just move on without leaving an answer if I can't think of something sensible to say, not everyone does that. And some people (often non-English native speakers) don't actually READ posts longer than a few lines.
What upsets me more is what I call "subtle spamming," in which someone "sort of" answers your question, and then talks about themselves and "signs off" with some affiliate link to a money-making web site. THAT bugs me.
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
18 Feb 07
No, it wasnt you. Your responses are always well thought out and to the point.
As far as getting frustrated with people. I think it is because I too only answer posts I feel I actually have something to add to. I feel like it is a waste of my time to post something that I know nothing about, as well as a waste of time for the person who added the discussion. The subtle spammers annoy me too. :)
@silver_moon525 (282)
• United States
18 Feb 07
It does irritate me a lot when people post a long winded response on something that is totally offtopic or doesn't even bother replying to your question. It just shows insensitivity on their part. Not only that, it shows that, for sites like these, they just want to post to earn the money. Their mind isn't really into answering the question or discussing the topic. They just want to write a "whatever" post to gain post counts (in non paying forums) or gain money through mylot. I have to admit though, I do that often too (but not on here) because sometimes the first post is so long that it's really like blinding to my eyes to read through the whole thing and it's kind of annoying when it's a big blob of text with no paragraph spaces in between them. I get lost when reading such a long post so sometimes I don't even bother reading it. For example, on your post, I got lost twice.
Of course then, when they get in an uproar when you don't reply to them, that's just really dumb because they don't deserve to be replied to anyway since they didn't even concentrate on correctly answering your question.
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I know that my posts are long. In fact, sometimes I forewarn that it is going to be a long post. But my thought on it is, if you dont feel like taking the time to read the post and respond accordingly, move on to another shorter post where you arent required to put any major thought into your reply.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Feb 07
no it does not upset me at all...i just presumed that we have all different kind of perceptions regarding on the interpretation on the discussions...coz its what i have observed here...im not so meticolous on the response type as long as it is not a hatred type of response..
@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I tend to say at least thank you for responding, even if it isnt a response to the actual topic at hand. I simply got frustrated because someone responded to my discussion and didnt like my response back to them. I feel like at least I made the effort to respond to them, even if they didnt respond to the actual topic at hand.
@denden (802)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
i think its ok because you cannot please anybody or you cannot get their all attention. in here all you have to do is to accept and be professional or good enough to discuss or post so that they may response or whatever. i know that it does upset me but i can accept because its the reality that they dont like you post or your post doesn't caught their attention. what do you think?
@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I think that if people are going to respond to a discussion, any discussion, not just mine, then they should have the courtesy to read the entire thing. if they misunderstood the post, then fine. But I had an individual respond to a post not addressing the topic at hand, and then got angry with me because they didnt get as long of a reply from me as the other people responding to the topic.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I reply to some posts to my discussions but not all. Most don't require a reply. I do reply to as many as I can though. alot of people never go back into a discussion and look to see if someone replied to them after they posted a reply. alot of people do not have time and they just move on to the next topic. If someone does ask for something from me, I will respond to them and go back and check the post too. I don't get mad though. I think we all have our own ways we do things at mylot and it is okay with me.
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I honestly dont remind replying to people. It just kind of caught me off guard that day when I at least made an effort to reply to that person even when they obviously didnt read the entire post and then they got angry at me for not giving a longer reply.
