Police won't help.

Australia
February 24, 2007 5:50pm CST
My brother has had a falling out with my cousin and now my cousin is threatening to kill him. My brother did the wrong thing and I have told him that, as he slept with my cousins girlfriend. I do realise that was a very stupid thing to do and have told my brother that. My cousins girlfriend kept getting in touch with my brother to try and get him to meet her somewhere, I kept telling him not to because she is only causing more trouble. One day she turned up at his place and they were watching TV, the next thing he knows is our cousin is there and threatening to kill him, the only reason he didn't do it then was because there was a child there. I think the girlfriend set this up. I actually think she likes to have two men fight over her. My brother has told them he doesn't want to see them both again but the girlfriend keeps trying to contact him, he has changed his number a few times now but she gets it from someone else. I have told my brother not to give it to anyone, as there is someone who is giving his number to them, but I think I am better off hitting my head against a brick wall, at least the wall might listen. My brother gets sms's saying that she can stop him from hunting him down, I can stop you from getting hurt etc. My brother has been ignoring these messages. Then they rang up using a different number one time and my brother answered it and they threaten to kill him again. The girlfriend had even gone as far as ringing one of my brothers daughters and waiting for his daughters after school to pass on messages to my brother. My brother has finally gone to the police and told them what is going on and said he wants a restraining order on these two, he told them about the sms's, threats and about them contacting his daughters. The police said there is nothing they could do, they can't put a restraining order on them yet because there has been no physical contact yet. They wouldn't even look at the sms's and didn't even consider that the daughters are now getting involved. My brother was so depressed after that. I just don't understand why the police can't do something. If my cousin get his hand on him, my brother is not even going to have the chance to ring police. My brother has been hiding at my place a lot, but I can't keep doing that forever. My cousin and his girlfriend know he is here, but they are to scared to come here because they know that I will ring the police straight away. They also know that they would have to deal with my husband. Does anyone have any advice?
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• Canada
25 Feb 07
I don't understand this at all , the police should be able to put a restraining order on them as I know someone who has a restraining order on them and it is no where near as serious , it was only over an arguement and there was no physical cotact , it was yelling threats . Your brother was in the wrong but certainly does not deserve this kind of treatment and I would consider the threats at least some type of harrassment . Has he tried having them charged with this ? Why the police are waiting til someone gets hurt is beyond me as it seems this is escalating especially that they brough a child into all of this . I wish I had more to offer and hope that you will find some answers as the cousin and his girlfriend could be dangerous if they wanted to be . Best of luck !!
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• Australia
25 Feb 07
I don't understand it either, if my husband hadn't gone with him I wouldn't have believed it. Especially when they are getting my brothers daughters involved. I don't understand why they have to wait until there is physical contact. We are not giving up yet though, we are going to go to another police station and see if they will take it seriously and we are also going to contact a lawyer to see what they say. No he hasn't tried having them charged, it has taken us a couple of months of this harrassment to just get him to the police station to try and get a restraining order on them. Now that they have told him they can't help him, it is going to make it hard for us to get him to try something else. The only advice the police gave us was to change your number again and move house. I think that is ridiculous because they should be able to do more. My husband even asked them if they could at least go and talk to my cousin and his girlfriend, but they won't even do that. I know the girlfriend is definetely dangerous because she tried to run over my cousin in her car, she even drove through a fence to try and get him and while she did this she had her son in the backseat with no seatbelt on. My cousin also beats her and gets into a lot of fights. He is always in trouble with the law too. He is actually on parole at the moment. Thanks!