How do you tell someone they shouldn't be doing what they're doing?

United States
March 7, 2007 11:00pm CST
If you ran across a discussion about a site you were a member of, and you know the discussion could cause problems for the member, at the site being discussed...... What would you do? I did run across one today and need some advice. I know the site in question SPECIFICALLY states no forum posts, etc. or your account could be deleted along with any refs & earnings. They even go out of their way to point out the only advertising they DO find acceptable. I would hate to see this member put their account at risk but at the same time, as close as I am to reaching payout myself, I would not like to get my account jeopardized by responding with even a friendly warning. What would you do in this situation, keeping in mind, the member isn't on your friends list?
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
8 Mar 07
If you are absolutely certain that what the person has posted is against site guidelines, instead of confronting the person, go ahead and report it to the site administrators. That way, they can look things over, and if they decide that something is amiss, they can deal with it accordingly.
• United States
8 Mar 07
The discussion isn't against mylot guidelines. It's against the guidelines of the site being discussed. The member is just excited about his earnings at the site & is sharing the news. The "site" says posting to any "discussion board" is against their policy. I remember making newbie mistakes, and I always appreciated a more experienced member letting me know as early as possible. I don't want to go to the sites admin, because I don't want to be responsible for getting their account deleted due to an accidental oversite. What if another mylot member (and friend) had made a similar mistake? What if more than a few mylot members had done it because they forgot the tos? What if the "site" cancelled all their accounts? I'm not even sure if I'd want to do a search of mylot discussions, in case I find others. :o
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
8 Mar 07
That's very understandable. I kinda figured you were talking about a different site. And I really wasn't trying to suggest reporting the person as a negative thing. Only as a way to be sure that if the person was doing wrong, the site admin. could advise them more clearly of what the guidelines are so as to clear up any confusion. I apologize if I came across the wrong way...maybe it's my beddy bye time! LOL
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• United States
8 Mar 07
I'm sorry too, my mind can be too full of what ifs sometimes. (WCS) I've actually had an account deleted because of a newbie mistake a long time ago. I didn't even know what I had done wrong. Talk about your enthusiasm being crushed! :(
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• United States
8 Mar 07
If I was the one who was doing something they shouldn't do, just straight up and tell me. I did post a referral link to something. That site doesn't want things spammed all over social networking boards (I responded with the link because I was asked for quick payout sites, hopefully it is not considered spam if you are asked for it.) If it is someone else, which it probably is, I really don't know what I would do... I know that you will have the wisdom to handle it, though.
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• United States
8 Mar 07
LOL, You're on my friends list, so you're safe. I assure you, I would let you know by PM if I thought you needed a friendly warning. That's what friends are for. We look out for one another. ;D
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• United States
8 Mar 07
lol, so I haven't checked my friends list in a few days and have forgotten who all is on it. Glad to have a good friend in you, who would PM me if needed.
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• United States
8 Mar 07
I did a search for discussions for the "site" and found 2 of my friends. I sent them a PM, but I'm still not sure what to do about the rest.
• Canada
8 Mar 07
I think I would try to use someone else's computer to set up an account just to warn the person that they could be suspended for what they were doing as they probably don't even realize what they are doing is wrong . And by setting up an account at someone else's place you are saving yourself from doing something wrong as you could use a friends name ( that agreed of course ) and it would never be pointed back to you for doing this . I would like to add that the fact that you are bothered about something that might affect someone you don't even know says a lot about you as a person and shows that you are a very good person to try to help someone even if it is online . Best of luck !!
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