convincing to parents for marriage

India
March 8, 2007 1:04pm CST
hi, i need your help....i am in a relation with a girl for the past 4 years and whenever i want to talk to my parents about this, i dont get the courage to talk to them, i have talked to them once..but they kind of said no, but in the end they did say that u will decide on your own. but the next time i talked to my mom, she again refused. i really love the girl and her family fully supports the relationship but i dont get the courage to talk to my parents. one of the reason for this i is that my parents never start this topic, even though i have complained many times to my mother that i am very upset from inside becuase all my thoughts are within me and my parents never come to discuss this. how can i make them talk to me and make them understand about our trueness of this relation. we share a very nice and a pure relation. please guide me.
4 responses
@limcyjain (3523)
• India
8 Mar 07
I think you should advice the parents of your girlfriend to approach your parents with a marriage proposal especially when they are happy with the relationship. When they move in and propose for your marriage you too can request for approval as you know the girl and feel that you can spend a long lasting relationship.
1 person likes this
• India
10 Mar 07
Thanx for the advice
@xtedaxcvg (3190)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
Well, I had the exact same problem before dude, like, 2 months ago. I tried to convince my mom that I'm gonna marry my girl since we've been together for 4 years as well. My mom said no because I haven't graduated yet. She also said that if I pushed through with the wedding, she won't attend. So, what I did was I talked to her seriously, brushed off my pride, promised her that I'll graduate before i get married, then for the past 2 months I proved to her that me and my girl are really serious about the marriage. Show her signs of maturity since that is what they really want from you. Just assure them that you can already stand on your own. You can do it man, just have faith in your love. =)
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@tintusam (1169)
• India
9 Mar 07
U mentioned that u don't have the courage to talk to your parents,i think you should take sometime to prepare yourself ,how to present infront of your parents.Well itz good that the gal side have no problem with you.May be your parents are also waiting for the right time.Talk to your parents make them understand your feelings.Temper don't work so be carm and belive in your love.
@bluewings (3857)
8 Mar 07
I think both the responses make very good points.If it's winning the confidence of the girl to get her to request her parents to approach yours ,then you have to show responsibility and maturity that will let her know you are ready for to take the relationship to the next level.However,if it's only the fear of approaching your parents bothering you ,then you have to decide which fear is worse 'fear of your parents or fear of losing your girlfriend'.I assume it would be the latter,in which case your work is cut out.Just plan it well and take your girlfriend (and her parents if possible) into confidence.A problem seems less burdensome when more than one mind works at it.