how can you determine a genuine love?

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Scott Peck, in his book "The Road Less travelled", says that genuine love begins when the feeling ends. In particular, he cites the "falling out of love" stage as the point where couples can realize their potential for genuine love. Peck categorically says, and I totally agree, that falling in love is not real love. It's all driven by feelings. As couples venture futher into their relationship, they realize that the ecstatic feeling of falling in love doesn't last, that the honeymoon is over, that they have fallen out of love. What separates real love from mere falling in love is that it is an act of free choice that requires effort and commitment. Falling in love is effortless; you do something for another person because you are driven by strong feelings, and, of course, hormones. But to love genuinely, one needs to exert so much effort to stay committed, with or without feelings, with or without the raging hormones. Genuine love happens between persons who choos-and want-to stay with each other even if they have all the means to be on their own.