Is parenting skills comes naturally or its a skill which have to be developed

United States
March 15, 2007 8:02am CST
Hey folks do you think that parenting skills have to be learned or its comes with time ..what are your views on this
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6 responses
15 Mar 07
I always thought that I would be a natural mother as I always loved kids. However it soon became aparant that looking after your own child is very different to helping out someone else and it took a lot of time and a lot of mistakes to get there.
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
15 Mar 07
I think alot comes natural when becoming a parent, but there are lots of things that need caruful thinking through or need to be learnt by new parents. I think everyone should spend the pregnancy thinking through what kine of parents they want to be. How you raise, disipline, and teach your child is in my view the most important decitions you will make in your life. here you have a great influence over another human beeing. How you perform as a parent will have the greatest impact on how your child does in the world. I cannot think of a task that would need more thought and preparation than this. I think you owe it to your child, yourself, and society to be the best parent you can possibly be. That des not come easy, but is hard conscious work.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I think parenting is something that needs to be learned. If a child or young adult grows up not seeing or experiencing good parenting chances are they will go into parenthood without the skills to properly raise children. This sad cycle can be broken by classes or other adults coming into their lives and teaching by book or example true parenting.
@honeyangel (1992)
15 Mar 07
i think its a mixture of both.you learn as time goes on,every day its somthing new and you learn by your mistakes
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
15 Mar 07
well iknow i do not have a child of my own yet but i do have parenting skills..i can see it when i work with children and when i babysit i am also sure that ther are alote of skills that are to be learned by me. i do agree that it is a combination of both things:)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Yes indeed they have to be learned. We learn alot from our parents,one way or the other. But I know with my First Son, I made many many mistakes by the time the second and third came around I was able to relax and had more tools at my disposal and able to trust my own intuition more. I think for most women although not all, there is an instintive mothering trait. But wanting to parent and being a good parent is a learned behavior. If I had it to do all over again there is so much I would do differantly even now.