Am I wrong to feel this way
By ladylily29
@ladylily29 (323)
United States
March 22, 2007 2:23pm CST
My husband has been gone on the road for 8 days.With only short phone calls to say hi and I love you, he comes home today and says how bad his week was, then his boss and my cousin shows up and the guys are off 4 wheeling.I sort of don't feel like he missed me at all.Just his 4 wheeler.Tomorrow we are going on a trip me him and the kids,and a bunch of other people, he will be around me some of the day, Sat . he will be around me some,4 wheeling some, and then we will be having our girls birthday party and sleep over, then Sunday he goes back out on the road.Am I wrong to feel like this?And no talking has ever help him see differently .I have told him ,I miss him ,and want more us time, and then I have told him I too have bad weeks and so on, after all I get stuck(love my kids and all)with three kids,fighting and all, teacher meetings,dr. appointments and I help take care of my parents.I have told him when I want a break ,it's with him, so I can feel comfort and loved.But he don't seem to take heart in my talks.He just sits and listens and then nothing ever changes.What would you do?
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@PATTYCAKE1979 (227)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Find other interests besides your husband! When your not being superwoman, and you have some time to spare and he wants to get on the four wheeler. Go to a movie, take your self shopping, do somethng fun that you wouldn't need your husband for anyway. The he'll get the picture. I use to have the same problem. My boyfriend was the same way. i started going out (alone) be gone all day, window shopping, catch a movie, treat myself to dinner, go to the casinos anything to be out of the house. He started wanting to so things then, and now I can't shake him off me, I got so use t going alone, to where I didn't want him even going half of the time. (smile)
@prestocaro (1251)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I think that this is great advice! I was going to post and you beat me to it. You need to have your own thing going on, so to speak, and he'll start to get the picture.
@ChrisRock619 (1040)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Well if you don't feel missed or loved I don't think it is wrong, it really seems to me he really has his prioritie messed up. I understand that he might be working alot, but from what I understand so are you. It's not wrong for you to want the little time he's there to be with you two. If he doesn't want it or doesn't see things your way, then I think somethings definitely wrong. I would take a risk and really come out and "spill the beans" tell him how you really feel and that things much change. Believe me one thing is for sure, I wouldn't stay in a relationship like that for too long, no matter how much I loved the person if that was happening to me.
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@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
if all been done and he doesnt mind that...why dont stop talking. instead, tell you brother that you already feel left out since theyre always together 2 wheeling..maybe he will listen...
