March 23, 2007 12:25pm CST
I'd like your opinions on this. My sister in law called me yesterday and asked if I had bought her son a birthday gift yet. His birthday was yesterday, but we weren't yet invited to a party~ so I said no. She then said he wanted something for a gift that cost $140 so she is calling everyone who buys him a gift and asking us to give her money to buy this for him. She would give him the gift that night and tell him that it was from all of us. I didn't know how to react to this. I said ok, and sent her a check today. I can't decide if it is a good idea or not. What bothers me is that when I told her that my kids would rather have money for thier birthdays because they were saving up for a dirtbike, so said she didn't believe in giving kids money for a gift. Now when she does have his birthday party, should I get him a little gift. I will feel funny going empty handed. I asked her if she would wrap it up again when he has his party, but she said 'don't worry, he'll remember who gave it to him.' He hasn't called to say thank you yet either so does he really know it is from us too? What do you think?
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24 Mar 07
Hmm.... did you send a check for the amount that you would normally spend on his gift? If so, then I wouldn't give him anything more. Or you could always give him a card with a few bucks in it (maybe 8 dollars if he's turning 8, etc.) and put a note about the other gift that you all chipped in on. Next time I would definetely tell your sister in law that you already bought a gift. He will probably be disppointed on his party day if he doesn't get any other gifts. Kids are kids and they have short memories!
24 Mar 07
I would give him a card that said hope tou enjoy the ---- we all bought for your birthday and maybe some sweets so you are not empty handed when you arrive! I know you are upset at the way your sister in law acted (i've been there too) but I would just be the bigger person and let it rest - I mean in the bigger scheme of things it's not that big a deal is it?