Why did you choose your mate?
By scorpiobabes
@scorpiobabes (7225)
United States
March 24, 2007 11:18am CST
I chose my husband (now divorced) because I was raised to believe that when you got pregnant, you were to marry the man (love be damned!); another woman I know married her husband so she'd have someone to take care of her son and a girl this weekend told me that she was only marrying this guy because he was the baby's dad (even though she met a man she would want to be involved with). What gives?
I'm seeing a man that sadly (and stupidly on his part) doesn't listen to me and in fact chooses to live with another woman (I'm not so sure I buy the roommate bit at all now), yet wants me to be exclusive. Excuse me??? Unless he's willing to 1) live with me or 2) marry me and put a ring on my finger, I don't think so. What do y'all think?
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
26 Mar 07
Wait a minute here!!! why are you even involved with a guy that is living with another woman even if it is just as roommates. Does he spend nights with you or is he always making excuses as to why he needs to go home ever night...right there would prove they are more then room mates. you need to get out if you ask me. I married my ex husband because i thought he was my savior because he saved me from an abusive relationship but after we were married turned out to be abusive too.
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@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I know, stupid me! He's always making excuses now, he stayed over a few times but always made an excuse why he had to leave after breakfast.
I've even made it a point to say to his face that if they were nothing more than roommates, it shouldn't be a problem to invite me over. I'm getting a roomie (or two) in the next few months and I'll be letting this man (I can't even say boyfriend/man I'm seeing now) know that I'm not always available. He said something this weekend that pissed me off good! But because he doesn't want me 24/7 is another reason I don't want HIM 24/7 either!
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
I choose my partner because I know that he's sincere and he showed me that he really loves me. He took the risk from the very beginning just to be with me, though we're not married. We already have plan to get married someday.. Those are enough reasons why I choose him.. :) Actually, there are just some people who still thinks the traditional way, I mean they think more on the obligations and responsibilities and try to disregard their feelings or they might just be in denial. I agree on what you say, unless the person really wanted to get to married to you then go for it.. :)
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@patootie (3592)
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8 Apr 07
I got married because I thought I had met the man of my dreams .. then I grew up and realised that he was the man of my dreams .. but I had just met him at the wrong time and that due to my immaturity when I got married I was now a different person with different aims in life ..
@decimus785 (1419)
• Aruba
24 Mar 07
I only know that Previously people got married to make a baby afterwards,now it's vice versa,the woman gets pregnant and afterwards get married.:-)
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