The Conclusion 32 to 1
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26770)
United Kingdom
April 3, 2007 4:11pm CST
Just wanted to thank everyone for their responses, overwhelming support and advice over me taking the job at the nursery.
I cancelled in the end, I couldn't go through with it, I weighed it all up but it wasn't for me. I wouldn't be happy there and I couldn't face working with 32 women and putting up with their hostility and suspicion.
What if just one of those 32 women took a dislike to me and said I had touched a child in an appropriate way? That would be my career in pieces, I just don't want to take that chance
I have come to the conclusion that I have to face facts and return to the work I know best and that is secretarial at least I won't be under the spotlight 24/7 it was too much hassle and I'd be on my guard, what's the point in that, everything I do I would be under scrutiny and watched like a hawk and jumped on if I did something wrong. I've worked with women before being in the minority and no disrespect but it was very very uncomfortable.
You may think I'm wrong but at least I made the decision and I am sticking by it.
I don't think they were even bothered, they didn't even ask why! So it just confirm they couldn't of cared less, or maybe I'm being too sensitive as usual
So, it is any wonder why men don't want to work with children and I don't think that'll ever change!
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10 responses
@weemam (13372)
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5 Apr 07
you know pal , I think you will be a lot happier now you have made your mind up , I think its a shame that people can make you feel like that , I think they are just jealous that a man can do the job as good or in fact better than they can , I would say to you pal , never mind what anyone else says , you go with your heart , whatever you do I wish you all the very best with , hugs and xx
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@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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5 Apr 07
Its ashame you have felt like this. As I said in your other post, we have a bloke who works with us and thankfully we are decent women who have never thought this of him. Although I can understand how you must feel.
Kids need men in nurseries and the stereotypical views of men who go into childcare should stop.
I wish you luck in your career.
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@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
5 Apr 07
Thank you, I might have thought twice if there was already a guy working there, you know safety in numbers, what annoys me is that women are just as likely to hurt children as men, it's just that men always hit the papers (like Huntley) but look at Myra Hindley! Congrats on reaching 1000!
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
5 Apr 07
You are NOT wrong, it is your decision to accept what job you want. I understand clearly what you are saying about women being nasty to work with. Even though I am a woman I have worked for many female attorney's and it is always the hardest job to have, they are ruthless and can be just plain mean, stepping on you to reach higher on that ladder not caring how they get there or who they hurt on their way up the ladder. My hats off to you for making the right decision for your career.
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@AskAlly (3625)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
Well I have to say I disagree. You could have had a job while looking for another. But that is just the way I would have done it. You do sound a bit sensitive and defensive about it though.
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
4 Apr 07
Ok I am my friend, but when I worked for a short period at my last nursery one woman turned round to me and said to the others loudly Brian can't take the children into the toilets he has to be supervised. As well as the looks I got and the sarcasm, that I can deal without!
@mummymo (23706)
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3 Apr 07
I wouldn't say that you were wrong wolfie honey - I just feel sad for you that you don't feel you can do what you really want to with your life! I think you would have been fantastic working with children but I will give you any support I can in any way that you need - just shout sweets xxx
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@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
3 Apr 07
Thank you my friend, means a lot! I also think that views down south are far different than up North. A friend of mine who I lost touch with worked in a nursery in Bradford and invited me up there because she said the women would have loved me but that was years ago now. Oh well, it wasn't meant to be, hugs xxx
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Its OK Wolfie. Something better is waiting for you. The right job just hasn't found you yet is all. Just wait it will show up soon. I know that whatever you do. You will do wonderfully. You are a great person and I like ya :). Always be yourself because you are perfect .
@nglanfield (559)
• Turkey
4 Apr 07
I'm sorry that you chose not to do that particular job, but you have to think of yourself in cases like these and if you knew that you wouldn't be happy or conscious of their scrutiny then you made the right choice.
At least you have those qualifications under your belt for the future if needed.
I hope you have luck finding a suitable job where you know that you'd be happier.
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
3 Apr 07
lol..you are sensitive
my father works with children for the last 35 years
and people learned to respect him
but i do respect your decision
i am sure you do know what is the best for you
more then any of the other people that surround you
and i wish you the best luck my dear friend with any job
that you'll choose taking:)
