Mother who is ill and elderly

Mother and Daughter - An elderly woman with gray hair sitting with another woman with their heads together smiling. They seem happy and content. This is a photo of an aging mother and a 40 something daughter.
United States
April 16, 2007 12:48am CST
My mother is almost 78 and is having some serious health issues. She has always been healthy and a caregiver. She is not doing what her doctors are telling her to do. She is still driving and is the live in guardian of her sister and brother who are also elderly and sick. Does anyone have any advice on how to be pleasant, loving and kind but at the same time let her know that she is not helping herself or my Aunt and Uncle by continuing to ignore her doctor's orders?Are there any other sandwich generation people out there - you have children and aging parents to care for at the same time?
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weemam
@weemam (13372)
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17 Apr 07
I think you know I take care of both my parents who have Alzheimer's and both still in their own home , I am an only child and it is my responsibility , I am very close to them so it isn't a problem ,I am just giving back what they have done , and are still doing for me , I know just how your Mum feels though , I have asthma, carpal tunnel and arthritis , I still manage quite well at the moment but get really tired , I am always being told to take it easy but like your Mum I can't , I know how she feels but if you ate ever in her position you know you will do the same for her , That is what love is all about , I think it is so lovely how you are working for your Mum , and thank you so much too for the lovely birthday message , take care xx
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ShawnsBidness
@ShawnsBidness (381)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Yes I do know about your loving care of your parents. They are blessed to have a daughter like you. When my mother first became ill, I spoke to my family and friends to get some advice. They all said to let her do what she is able. It will give her the will to live. I agree with that. The problem is that she is doing things that are not safe for herself and for my Aunt and Uncle. She shouldn't be driving as she gets dizzy spells suddenly. She shouldn't be doing as much work around the house as it fatigues her, makes her short of breath and taxes her system. I have many chronic illnesses. I am able to do so much. I want to do everything for her! Please keep us in your prayers.
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