I think I need a different therapist
By Diana
@dya80dya (34649)
May 13, 2024 7:50am CST
My therapist is a man. I think I need to find a woman. I said to him that a rat entered our bathroom. And he asked where is the problem. I said to him that my father was slamming doors and cursed and he said that I should ignore him and stay in my room. So nothing was a problem for him. I felt very misunderstood.
He said that I should just remove anxiety like an old cloth. I said to him that if this was so easy no one would need medication or therapy. And he said that it's so easy to get rid of anxiety. And he keeps saying that effort is not necessary to feel better. But nothing will change if we stay still and don't make an effort.
I asked him to give me a practical solution and he didn't have any solutions for me. The price is lower and this is why I continued therapy with him. I feel like he doesn't have empathy. I explained to him that I need a job to move out. He said that a job is an obstacle I find. And he said I should just move out even if I don't have a job. He doesn't understand my problems at all.
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@Cristi_Ichim (3708)
• Bucharest, Romania
13 May
Exactly. Gender does not really matter.
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@sallypup (58558)
• Centralia, Washington
14 May
That sounds like that therapist is in the wrong profession. I wonder how much schooling he has?
@sabtraversa (13097)
• Italy
13 May
I had your same luck, no therapist would help me. But in my case they were mostly women.
At least a psychiatrist can prescribe meds. 
Of course, there are many kind of therapies out there and maybe there's one that will work for you, but it might be too expensive. Group therapy is deemed to be cheaper than individual therapy, and it's usually more practical as you do group activities, you're prompted to interact with people who share similar issues so you feel less lonely and perhaps less "wrong" or "misunderstood". 
Priests and pastors can do what your current therapist does, if not better, and they're free. 
Of course, there are many kind of therapies out there and maybe there's one that will work for you, but it might be too expensive. Group therapy is deemed to be cheaper than individual therapy, and it's usually more practical as you do group activities, you're prompted to interact with people who share similar issues so you feel less lonely and perhaps less "wrong" or "misunderstood".
Priests and pastors can do what your current therapist does, if not better, and they're free. 
@JESSY3236 (19146)
• United States
14 May
You need a new therapist. I just started seeing a therapist and she did suggest some good things.
@marguicha (216950)
• Chile
13 May
If a doctor doesn´t help me, I change the doctor no matter how small the charge. After all, any charge is too much if he is not helping. I don´t think that it depends on his being a man though. It is just that he is not the therapist for you.
@just4him (310126)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 May
No, he doesn't understand. You need a new therapist who will help you. He's not helping.
@2ndchances24 (5745)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
13 May
If he doesn't give you the effect you are looking for then
I would find another 1 that would & you'll know it when you
find them, I have a male therapist myself which is good.
