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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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jolanda33 well show him that you're mature enough to leave him! you're waisting your time with this man, i am sure about it! well and if they blame you, let them! i think you're strong enough to tell them the truth about him!

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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ababee22 I would leave but make sure you do it in a decent way for the kids. Don't make it a big battle. You've never feel great about yourself if you're around him.

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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micheller Girl you should leave him. If you are married to someone, you should beable to have a good relationship with them and beable to talk to him and have fun with him. Take your kids and leave. Start over with your life and maybe down the road you will find a...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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MBourgeois I'm positive your children would rather see you happy. My mom was far from happy with my father, but refused to get a divorce so that we could still see him. It was a major relief when she finally did, because we all felt that it was best for her. Listen...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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sharone74 You need to talk with him. Tell him what you need from him in your marriage. If he says that he will give it to you, stay. If he bullies or belittles you then go! But don't continue on like you are unhappy and unchallenged. Yes you have two kids together but I...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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sarfaraz_ahmedh try it for atleast for u r children sake plz

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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akumei1269 You cannot spend your whole life with so much of diregard for each other . You go from stp to step openly . You are bound to be in a bad repute . But it is your life . You can do another thing . Write a letter to him telling everything you are feeling ....

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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elizabeth13 Hi. So sorry you are going through this. I wasted 7 years with an ex husband of mine. Don't waste anymore of your time, seriously. Nicely confront him on these issues, see if he's open to change, but usually, you can't change someone, I learned that from...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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baweja I think he is still attached more with his own family members and you both had not spent much time togethar since you got married, therefore, he has more attachment with other family members. Now here you have to be very cautious and you should not just let go...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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missybal If it has been 7 years and two kids later and you never got that vibe or felt like you could love this person you need to leave him. I wouldn't worry about what others say. They don't know what it is like being married to this guy. Really I would tell him...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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cwgrlsarefun Living like this can be a total nightmare. You should try talking with him, try getting through to him somehow and tell him how you are feeling. If he is not inerested in your feelings or is not inerested enough to at least change a little then you will have...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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sbobby Just leave him and start a new life with a new guy.

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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ljnitsch dump that dumb stupid peice of crap. hes not worth ur time if he doesnt tend to u. get a man who loves u and whoi will take care of the kids. LJ

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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coolmom we are almost in the same situation but i am still trying to be a good wife and a good mother too because there's nothing we can do anymore. i believed that time will change. just open your heart and mind to him as long as he's still doing his responsibilities...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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aryangentleman I almost tried not to respond to this discussion as you have already have bucket full off advice. But then I couldn't resist myself as I am an Indian and in our society these dried up marriages exist in abandon. The story of yours is tragic in the sense that...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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RAWOZNICA Since the marriage was arranged it does not sound like you were given the opportunity to even know if you loved this man or not. From your words of not vibing with him it sounds like you do not love him and that you only stay with him because of the children...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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zburrou1 I think the first thing you should do is try to talk to him. If that does not work try counseling. If you try to talk, you can atleast say that you tried. I have learned that if you talk to them, they will listen half of the time. If you try everything and all...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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buddhan the problem wat u r facing is d same as dat of many other women facing in indian families. many husbands treat their wife as an animal without any feeling. its time to raise ur voice against this type of men. one thing, probably the only thing i admire about...

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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ghalayini You need to keep talking, keep finding out about each other. Of course you will have differences but that's what makes a marriage exciting as you discover new things.

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jaykay_123 @jaykay_123 (41) • India 17 Jan 07

as u see we had an arranged marriage and its been almost 7 years and two kids but i still dont vibe with him.and dont feel alive with him,.he doesnt even bother to talk to me mostly goes to chat with his parents or sisters.always...

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erdsethu just be cool, u r inn a position where my mother was 10 years before in same situation, but her patiance made her to change my father and still he is little bit problametic and coming to u .. be calm and try to have free chats with him to change hi mind

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