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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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ellen546 It sounds like you are going in the right direction, just don't say you are going to do something (like moving back to Tx. Stick to what you say. As far as Alonon some people it doesn't work for, but for me it was a great tool to help me understan what was...

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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dbmax41 I agree. Now that my kids are grown I see the effect it had on them. Sad

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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ayou82 Yes it does affect me and the psychological reactions to children. When i was young we lived in a shanties and theres a lot alcoholic men around..and it really affects us coz they turn to be so rude when drunk. Thats the reason why my mom packed everything and...

16 Dec 07

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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dbmax41 Sounds like me and my wife in the beggining. Ok well I must say you cant change a person even when its productive to a relationship. The best you can do is try Alanon. Its a group for spouses of alcoholics. Sometimes the spouse is worse off then the drinker...

16 Dec 07

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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dbmax41 you might want to learn about codependency.

16 Dec 07

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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dbmax41 You might need more time By that I mean if you feel your situation isnt bad enough for drastic change. Like I said though I think you have a great understanding of life change by holding and making boundaries. Good for you.

16 Dec 07

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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dbmax41 You sound like your on the right road. Boundaries are great if you keep them. Things always have a way of working them selves out as long as we hold to them. Im a happy guy today because my wife held her boundaries. I even have extra money once in a while...

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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dbmax41 Im a recovering alcoholic. When I met my wife I drank a liter of vodka a day with a case of beer and other things. My wife told me many times that she didnt want to be married to a drunk. I went to AA for a long time. Years. I still drank in the end. I finally...

9 Dec 07

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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dbmax41 In the beginning i knew i had a problem but it was easyer to give in to it. It took alot for me to stop drinking. AA, jail, church and family and friends. I cant forget my wife who told me she would kick me to the curb. She ment it to.

9 Dec 07

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dbmax41 @dbmax41 (585) • United States 14 Nov 07

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic? It doesnt matter if they work for a living have friends or any outward signs of being a good citezen. Most all alcoholics effect the people around them negativly. Im a recovering alcy and I...

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dbmax41 I dont blame you for wanting to be careful not to be controling or that social drinking might be ok. I can tell you that I didnt have friends when I drank. They were afraid of me. My wife was to I think. I drank to avoid issues. Like your boyfriend saying "I...

9 Dec 07

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