Managing wedding invites (time away from work and money). How do you do it?

Ask yourself how important the people are to you in your day to day life. If they are people that you don't see all the time, or have regular contact with then it is okay not to attend. My partner and I had a similar thing happen to us ... in this case for many of them it was a second marriage too. If the wedding was at a place where we could go one day and return the following day ... we would attend. From there it was a case by case basis .... if she or I had attended the first wedding and it was a relation we never saw or only spoke to a couple of times a year and it means travelling a distance ... then we just don't go. We have too much else to do as we both have jobs and in addition we have a small organic farmlet. Choose carefully on the basis that you cannot attend all of them ... send a nice present and your apologies to those you do not have a lot to do with now ... those which are courtesy invitations. If it is immediate family or very close friends ... then you will want to go otherwise say sorry cannot attend due to other committments. Weddings are very costly and that applies to the guests as well as the bride and groom.

Thankfully for me, a lot of people I know have been having destination weddings. This means that it's been pretty easy for me to say that attending their wedding just isn't a financial option for me. So then, I just send a gift and that's pretty much it. The problem is family weddings. Certain members of my family would see my lack of attendance at their wedding as an insult. They would be so hurt if I didn't go out of my way for them, that it could cause a lot more problems than I am prepared to deal with. This means that I absolutely have to go, regardless of the tax it takes on my personal time and wallet. Right now my policy is to grin and bear it. I am trying to find a way that will make me the most comfortable while it doesn't clean me out. I am also going to focus on spending some quality time with my boyfriend if he comes to the wedding. He will have a chance to see my family again and that is always a good thing because I want them to like him and I want him to feel comfortable around them. I suggest focusing on how much fun you will have seeing your family and that is what makes it worth all the work. I am also making plans to start saving money right now. Thankfully the wedding is a year away, so if I can save $20 a month or so (that means a few less movies, books, and dinners out sadly) I won't feel the strain as much. Just remember that it is worth it to make your family happy and to see them and celebrate with them. The same is true for your friends. Though I think that friend's weddings are a lot easier to get out of going to if they are not local.

In my way,I'll go to the wedding only those my friend's.As for those I know but am not familiar I nommally reject to go.For I have not so much money.In most situations,they will understand.