Do you believe in chatroom friendships?

@ashjoe76 (1422)
India
April 17, 2007 12:42pm CST
I have a few friends that i got from reliable chatrooms, that focus on learning and cultural exchange. And all of them prove to be worth their weight in gold. I have even met a few of them when I travelled to their places. but when I tell my colleagues and friends about this, they turn very sceptical. they say that people assume false identities and try to cheat you in every way in chat rooms. I feel that we are talking different languages when i hear this. None of my chat room friends assumed a false identity and they never ever even tried to cheat me! Please do enlighten me on this topic, as I seem to be lost in the never-ending arguments I have with people on this topic.
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42 responses
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I dont see anything wrong with chatroom friendships. Sometimes you just meet someone and you connect, and it doesn't matter whether that person is someone local or someone online. One of my closer friends is someone that I met online. I talk to her almost every night on the phone. We have a great time, and we have a lot in common. Sometimes it just happens that way!
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@ashjoe76 (1422)
• India
17 Apr 07
Yup....such experiences are quite inspiring, eh? Thanks a lot ofr sharing it here. I must mention that my experiences with chat room friendships are so similar!
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@rosie_123 (6113)
17 Apr 07
Well I belong to quite a few tennis forums and chat places for sports fans, and I have made many friends there along the way, with no problems. Many of us have met up at various tennis tournaments, got along really well, and have exchanged addresses, been to each others' houses etc. Of course there are dangers out there on the Internet (same as there are dangers anywhere), and you have to be on your guard - especially for young kids with the danger of paedopiles on the Net etc., but on the whole I have only had positive experiences in Chatrooms!
@ashjoe76 (1422)
• India
19 Apr 07
Yeah, I agree with you that young kids face real dangers in chatrooms. Sometimes it is much more than what the parents or caring adults could stop. But glad to hear that you have very good chat friends.
@dbeast (1495)
• India
17 Apr 07
the reason you are having a heated argument and you get a lot of flak when it comes to a discussion about making friends online is because mainly of the impostors who pose as different people and con people by befriending them.the only time i had a good and true relationship was the first time when i started using the internet.i have never found anyone else or found anyother friend on the internet who i can proudly relate and say that they really cared and we became the best of friends.but that is not the case.most of the people who con people give the persons who are truly out there to make good friends a bad name too in the process.
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• United States
17 Apr 07
I think the people who lie and misrepresent themselves on-line are on the dating sites for the most part. There usually needs to be some anticipated payoff for people to lie, and getting dates is sure to be a draw for these types. Honest people tend to expose their vulnerabilities on dating sites, too, and it leaves them open to all sorts of skulduggery. It's very sad, really. It's one of the things I like about mylot. You can get to know people through their ideas and not their photo or their measurements. We're not trying to impress each other, we're just curious and have opinions and information that we like to share. Tell your skeptical friends that not all chat rooms are geared towards "lonely hearts." True, there are some lonely people here, but they're looking for friends, not LLLLLove! Big difference, I'd say!
@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I have a few great friends that I have met in chat rooms. They have never lied to me or tried to cheat me in anyway. I also met my husband in a chat room almost 4 years ago. I think you need to becareful in them but I also think you can make some wonderful friends there too.
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@ashjoe76 (1422)
• India
17 Apr 07
I guess that's quiteinspiring. And I am surethere are many like you who have met their life partners online. Thanks for the message!
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• United States
17 Apr 07
I have friends that I've known for around five or six years; and the catch is that I met them on Yahoo's chat rooms.
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• Italy
17 Apr 07
I've known my best friends over the Internet. Some I have even met and are my travel buddies. Of course there are also many idiots, just like in the "real" world...
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Well I'm not big on chat rooms but I do talk on messengers to many friends I have met via other ways on line. Most of them I met via rpg groups or web site competitions. Some I have been talking with for years. I have only had a couple that lied about things in their life and assumed false things. Overall though I find most to be honest and to be good friends. The only exception to this is some I met via dating boards and talked with in messengers. I found many of those were liars and often present false images of themselves. No matter where you go in life there are some who will lie and others who will try to scam you. It's a shame that it happens but it happens in real life and on-line. Those who want to do such things will always find a way to do it. They can find their marks with or without the internet to facilitate them. All we can do is be alert, be smart and remember if it seems too good to be true often it is, pay attention to things people say, trust our instincts and hope it all works out.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I do believe in chartroom friendship. I have met many people who I consider my friends. Even on my lot I have a few close friends. Ones who I miss when they are gone for a few days. Some I can tell anything too. I do trust them.
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• China
18 Apr 07
I never go to a chatroom to look for friends. When I chat, I just chat with friends that I know well. I don't have a good thinking on chatroom friendships. The internet is a fictitious world. I believe there is seldom someone who wants to reveal his or her true identity on the net. I've read many reports about girls being cheated by their internet friends(mostly come to know each other in the chatroom), and taken to other places. The result is imaginable. They either be raped or sold. So I'm cautious with the internet, and never try to make friends online.
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I have made several friendship in a chatroom. I have met several of my friends from chat in person. I have never had someone lie to me about who they are. I even met my partner in a chatroom.
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• Malaysia
17 Apr 07
erm.. i do make friends online through chatrooms and messengers.. and here too.. right? i do believe there are good and bad peoples.. it's just whether we're lucky enough to meet a good one.. if we meet a bad one.. then yeah.. we'll be sceptic for some time.. i am not trying to bragg myself.. but .. as you can see.. i have a picture of myself.. and i admitted that i am 19.. you can see it very clearly right on my picture... there are always true friendship no matter how we obtain them... don't be afraid to make friend.. who knows.. you might meet with someone true.. i have friends that even met their life partners through online ... it's not a small matter right? :P
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• United States
17 Apr 07
I had an internet friend once. I felt really weird not knowing who I was talking to though. At first I thought I was talking to some weird 78 year old guy who pretended to be someone my age (20), but in the end it turned out that the person I was talking to was a 14 year old girl!! Immediately when she told me this, I told that I think our online friendship should end, because she was 6 years younger then me and I don't want to be arrested by the internet police.
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• Indonesia
17 Apr 07
Possibly came back to us to consider the character someone. He could in believed whether not. Because chatroom friendships,could be believed but also not. But if perhaps only to very legal information why not. Because believed or not him to someone came back to us:)
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
17 Apr 07
I do believe in chatroom friendships. I have one or two and have had a great deal of quite excellent conversations. I have also met a few people i have felt close to on line. However, not everything is as it seems and we all have to be even more careful here than we are in real life blessed be
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
19 Apr 07
personally i have never into any chatroom.I have seen many of my friends who take part there. Even one fell in love with a girl through this. He met the girl later and used to talk to her over phone. I personally believe that you don't have the idea about the person. you even don't khow him/her. as long as it is friendship over chat, its ok. I don't feel confident about anything beyond that.
22 Apr 07
If you open yourself up to the internet and treat this as you would real life then sure people can. I've got some good online friends, I just wished I knew them in person. ~Joey
@ironstruck (2298)
• Canada
17 Apr 07
I think it is very possible to meet friends on the internet. My daughter met her present husband on the internet and they are very happy. My son met a very nice girl online who is a registered nurse. They are living together and get along very well.
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
17 Apr 07
Well for me its hard to keep online friendships alive because Im a member of so many programs that I have to visit all the time or because Im not always on. I guess the people who kind of live online can keep these friendships up but I know I cant it would be to much work with everything else i do within the course of a day. So for me I try not to become to close with anybody because I dont want to insult them in the end by not answer them or meeting them online all the time.
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@mivarg (277)
• India
20 Apr 07
It is possible to maintain good friendship with the people you meet in chatrooms. You just need to be aware of the dangers there and the advantages too. For an educated adult citizen, it is all left to her/his discretion. And most ofthe times you get what you want.