Empathy

Empathy usually comes with the person, but it can be learned as well, it just takes a bit more work. For me it's very easy to understand the other side, to walk on other people's shoes, but I have many friends and family members that have a bit of trouble with it. It helps when you're able to think about the other person, and what this person might be feeling under a determined circumstance. If that is too difficult think about similar situation happening to you. How would you feel? A Lot of people - but not all - that have trouble with empathy have also trouble processing their own feelings and thinking about them. So sometimes starting with one self helps.

I think that everyone can be good at it. I think that part of the reason that more people aren't is because we are all going, going, going nonstop and its hard to stop and look around you. Sometimes I will stop what I am doing and look at everyone around me. I will often wonder what their life is like. What are some of the trauma's that they have suffered? What are some of the joys? What is their own truth? I think that helps you look at people more than just objects in your path and more like what they are...just people.

Well I have been able to deal with empathy and to be there for others when they are having a bad time in their life and been able to lift them out of their troubles and problems I feel wonderful that I have managed to be able to have the gift to be able to do this it is strange though that I can do a lot for others but not some times for myself but the last couple of years then it is working for me also. The main thing what you have to do is sort out your own life one small section at a time.

I think it is a skill for lack of a better word that comes from serving others freely. Once you do this, it just becomes a familar feeling. It will just automaticly happen. That is been the case in my life anyway. Good luck

I do try to have empathy with every person, while I have no idea what it is like to have cancer I can empathies with some one who has because I have had family and friends lost to horrific diseases, Your empathy doesn't have to be an exact match, but rather an understanding of what they are going through, and how it would affect you. I will give you an example I have vascular Dementia, could you have empathy with me, certainly if you understood that i have a problem with my memory and because of that I get very frustrated and angry, with myself for forgetting, and not being able to do every thing I used to do with out thinking about it or being reminded by someone else.You surely have forgotten something important and because if it your life was upset for a time until you were able to remedy the situation, So now you understand how my day to day life is because I do forget appointments, peoples names, addresses, things I went to the store for, It is just that my forgetfulness is ongoing and happens many times a day where as you may forget to do something once in a while, and may even pride your self on how good your memory is, just like I used to do. as it was described to me "Empathy is being able to stand next to a person and see what they see", and please never mistake empathy with sympathy, empathy is seeing what I see, sympathy is feeling sorry for me because of what I see.