please help me wheather i had to marry my girl friend

India
April 17, 2007 10:00pm CST
I had a girl friend .she is nice in looking with beautiful eyes and hair. but her problem is she always interfer in my personal matter. she doesnt like i taking alchole smoking etc. i alwyas scold me for doing this. if for marriage you have to select a person who understand you very mcuh.so iam in confussion please help me to slect.
5 responses
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
15 Aug 07
First, thank you for being so open and honest on here. In matters of the heart, its always wisest to listen - but not to others - to yourself - to your heart.
@gegegelay (933)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
I guess you should listen to her somehow. She only wants what's best for you. She is just concerned about your health. Smoking and drinking are not good for your health. I think she loves you so much that's why she's interfering in your personal life. It's not really that she's interfering but she's only concerned.
@mnflower (1299)
• United States
18 Apr 07
It sounds to me like your girlfriend wants to tell you how she wants you to be and is not accepting you for you..You would be wise not to marry until this is all straightened out and she starts to accept you smoking and drinking, if she doesnt like this about you that is her problem and she needs to accept it or let you go so you can find a lady that will take you for who you are.you shouldn't have to scold her, just tell her this is me this is what i like sorry if you don't like this but this is my choice. I am sure that she does things to that you dont like will she change all those for you? those are questions to ask, marriage is a big step and if you go in letting her tell you what you can and can't do it is not going to work.,so i would say no don't get married yet till you get these interfering matters straightened out.
• Hong Kong
18 Apr 07
If you are confused about the marriage, I think somehow deep down your heart, you don't really enjoy the way you two are getting along. Beauty is not everything, people get old someday and what if your girlfriend gets old and less pretty, still she tells you what she wants you to be, what would you think? Marriage is about understanding, communication, acceptance and comprimoses, you two need to work on those things, find ways to resolve the "problems" before considering marriage. It's always no good if you don't have that passion for marrying that person on the very first hand.
• United States
18 Apr 07
Well I think before you start talking marriage you two need to get your problems worked out. Getting married may only make them worse. I would take a step back and take a good look at the relationship. Make sure that this is really what you want.