Would you like to be a plain housewife or a career woman?

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@steney (1418)
Philippines
April 18, 2007 4:38am CST
With the kind of society and age we now live in, women tend to be more career driven. I am one of those who has a career because I need to have one to support both my own and my daughter's needs. But if I had a choice, I would rather be a stay-at-home mom and just do business or freelance work in the comfort of my own home. I'm tired of 8-5 full time jobs that don't pay much and keeps me away from my daughter 5 days a week. What are your thoughts on this? Would you rather stay at home or do you feel more fulfilled when you have a career outside the home? For the guys/husbands, what would you like your wife/girlfriend to be?
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@DIOSAMER (23)
• India
18 Apr 07
I would definitely love to be a career woman as i am an enterprising person...I just cant sit at home all day cooking, cleaning, etc. I need to have a job. earn good money and buy things that ive always longed for...Hence, sitting at home is not a good option for me..
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
I'm an enterprising lady as well, apart from freelance work, I like to have a little business on the side to make ends meet. :)
@deebomb (15314)
• United States
30 May 07
DIOSAMER Stay at home moms do not do any sitting. They are going and doing all day long.
@mememama (3076)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I'm a stay at home mom, I don't like the term "plain housewife", that sounds like we are boring! I feel very fulfilled that I get to stay at home and see everything that my son does. I am also grateful that my husband makes enough money so I can do that.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
Yes it sounds quite boring to be referred to as plain! :) It's a commonly used term here in my country and I don't know what's with the "plain" word. You're lucky that your husband makes enough money so you won't have to work. I hope when I get married I can be as lucky because I really want to stay home and be with my family. Thanks! :)
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@maryannemax (12165)
• Sweden
18 Apr 07
well, plain housewife isn't that nice to hear. my mom is a housewife but we don't call her as plain housewife. she's the best there is and she's a mom who took care of us. and she's not boring at all!
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@aciddrop (798)
19 Apr 07
i think nowadays few and few women would like to be a plain housewife at home.we need something else to stuff and colour our lives.career is definintely one of them.it sounds a good idea to do both freelance work and take care of family.i'd love to be a freelance writer or take up a less time-consuming job after marriage:)
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
There are lots of freelance work today, I'm doing them par time now but hopefully full time in the future. :)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I would rather be a housewife. I always have wanted to just be a housewife. I don't have a career and really don't want one. I am happy just being a hostess at a restaurant right now. I don't have any kids or anything, but if I did and had the choice I would definitely be a stay at home mom working from home.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
It's good to know what you really want. Working from home is really convenient and saves us the other extra expenses too from working outside. Thanks! :)
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@emma412 (1156)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I was a career driven person and thought I always would be. My mom was a stay at home mom and was never passionate about anything so she tried to instill that in both my sister and I. All of this changed however with the arrival of my 5 week old daughter. Now I want nothing more than to stay at home with her. Before I was working 50+ hours per week and I couldn't imagine going back to that. I don't want to pay someone else to raise my daughter and I don't want to miss out on all those milestones. So, we're planning on me staying home with the baby and hopefully babies as long as financially possible.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
One of the main reasons why women should rather stay home is our children. I'm glad my daughter came at a time that I'm not working, as I was able to take care of her from infancy. I joined the wor force again when she's 2, because I had to support her. Good that you can stay with your baby, enjoy her while you can and treasure each milestone. They're too precious to miss. :)
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@neerajm (111)
• India
18 Apr 07
I am career driven woman,i am an lecturerilove teaching and made it my profession,to fulfill the daily requirements earning is essential.I realy like my wifes profession because it is of limited hours,and she isable to look after me and my kids.She helps in my earnings to fulfill our dreams.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
Glad it works well for the both of you. What you have is a good balance of career and family life. Thanks for sharing. :)
• Philippines
31 May 07
I would rather be a plain housewife. And start a business of my own to occupy my free time. Will also have the luxury to see my baby girl grow up :)
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
31 May 07
Thanks for sharing! :)
@betchai (140)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
I am a career woman and a parent at the same time. I can't be a plain housewife because I have to support my daughter. Besides, what did I need to study college for? I feel that when you're a plain housewife, life stops at home. You can't view the world more outside your home. I feel that you will be left out with many new things.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
2 May 07
There are lots of plain housewives that are just as fulfilled as the career woman. I guess it all boils down to needs and priorities. In our case, we have to work to support our kids and pursue other dreams as well.
@musu112 (528)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I always wanted to be a Career woman and the best part is that I am all supported from my hubby. I think this is the most impostant part of our life that we can be best at our careers balancing with our homes, if we are supported from our partners.....so I really thanks to GOD for gifting with his best blessing.....
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
Thanks! :)
@delenep (212)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I would hope that u dun mean plain as in boring. I was a successful careeer woman w my own business b4 I became a mom and let me tell u, it's harder than being a career woman. I had more time for myself b4 I became a full time mom, but I wouldn't give up what I do now for a career. My child will be grown and out teh door before I know what's hit me and he deserves the best I can give him. My career can wait. My husband and I discussed what we would do b4 we had kids and we decided that I'd stay home. Its not easy esp since we struggly financially, but I would rather that and my child have his mom than have someone else raise him w their values and beliefs and he runs to them for comfort instead of me.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
Yes, I agree, it's tougher to be a mom and wife than a career woman. It's the hardest job in the world, but the noblest one. Thanks for sharing. :)
@Blazing15 (333)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I personally would love to be a stay at home mom but that is not possible for we need the money to support our family and to continue living. I would love to be able to stay at home and be able to take my children to whatever I wanted and to spend the day with them taking them to school, picking them up, dance classes, swim classes. You know that kind of fun stuff. And then I would always have the house clean throughout the day and my husband would just have to worry about working and coming home and spending time with us.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
I know exactly what you mean, and would like the same thing for myself too. If money is not an issue, it can easily be done. And all we have to worry about is taking care of our families. :)
@maryannemax (12165)
• Sweden
18 Apr 07
my boyfriend and i talked about this months ago. i always say i wanna have my own career and he is okey with the idea. i wanna help out my mom and siblings back here in the philippines and support them to the fullest i can. and he understands. i am just lucky to have an understanding boyfriend.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
It's really good to have an understanding partner to begin with-- someone who will not keep ou away from your dreams and goals, but instead is supportive of them. :)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I am neither. I have the choice to take work assignments if I want to. The choice to stay home is also there. Any money I make is mine to keep. My husband is very supportive. Thus, I am a both. However, I would never call myself "plain" housewife. There is absolutely nothing plain about me. I am driven in all that I do.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
Most women would want to be in your shoes, especially the "Any money I make is mine to keep" part. Most husbands would want their wives to share everything with them. Yeah, as to the plain part, women are definitely not plain. We are very diverse yet we are generally strong, driven and productive. :)
@deebomb (15314)
• United States
30 May 07
Domestic Diva -  Oh The Joy of being a Domestic Diva
I love the term given by responder babyboy. It so describes what a woman that has chosen as her career is. She is a domestic diva. It is a career as any domestic diva will tell you. She employees skill that are also needed in many other career choices. Her job description has so many components that they are hard to describe. She is a nurse, a chef, an accountant, a banker, a teacher, and the list can go on foe a very long time. It must be very discouraging to be called a plain housewife especially a plain one. It almost implies ugly which is soo not true. I first chose to be a domestic diva when my children were little but when my youngest entered school I had to go out side the home to make a living as I became a single mom at the time. But I preferred a career of the domestic dive.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
30 May 07
I totally agree. Women play a lot of roles in life and there's nothing plain about it. It's complicated and takes a lot of hard work. Cheers to us and all domestic divas out there! :D
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@deebomb (15314)
• United States
30 May 07
I say AMEN to that!!!
@maryannemax (12165)
• Sweden
31 May 07
if i could have a home based job, that is better than working 8 hours a day away from home. atleast, i can earn and be with my children, too. but if i can't have an home based job, i wanna atleast have a career to atleast be of help to my husband, too financially.