anybody have step parents that they actually like?

United States
April 18, 2007 10:27am CST
why is it that most step parents are a**holes? i know that there are some good ones out there. but they are few and far between. why is that? why cant a parent love someone else child the same way that they love their own? i know i can. people adopt every day and accept that child into their lives as if they are their own. so why cant a step parent be able to do that as well? just wondering.
4 responses
@prestocaro (1253)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I love my stepdad very much. Most of my friends don't even remember that he is my step dad and not my real dad, even though I'm sure I've told them all. My mom got remarried when I was 6, though, so I was pretty young. But he has always loved me and my sister as a father loves a child. He taught me how to ride a bike and throw a baseball. He showed me how to balance a checkbook. He's been there for me in every sense that a father should be there for his daughter. I call him "dad" and call my biological father "brian", his name, because the only fatherly thing he ever did was donate a sample. That being said, a stepparent is a lot to get used to. Some stepparents hold the child responsible for his/her actions for far too long, in my opinion. For instance, I have a friend who hates his step-dad and whose step-dad hates him because of something the friend said to the stepdad when he was 12 and the stepdad came into the picture. The stepdad just won't let it go and this has ruined their relationship. I see this in many relationships, where the parent or stepparent isn't willing to be the bigger person and let things go. But that is part of being a parent, in my opinion.
@mrsbrian (1950)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I have often wondered about that. I am a stepmother to 3 wonderfull children and I have two of my own I love those kids as if I had given birh to them myself. Seems like now a day when someone picks a partner who has children from another marriage there not thinking about the whole picture just there own selfesness. I think If you love the person you should also love all that comes with him in this case his children.
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@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
18 Apr 07
Actually, my stepfather is the only father I know, and he ispretty good to me. He helps me out when he can, and listens to me when I have something to say. He considers me his daughter, and calls me so. I commend him for trying, for I kow these relationships get tougher as the child gets older. I am 33 and Mick is an angel to me. God bless him!
• United States
18 Apr 07
it seems that way. when my parents were separated,his girlfriend at the time was such an a**hole she didn't even make it to stepmother. she announced when THEY were married,my brother and i would be shipped to private schools immediately.that way "their lives would be unimpeded". ..and then my dad woke up. she got the boot.