merging families together
By khoskins
@khoskins (20)
United States
April 18, 2007 3:00pm CST
Me and my husband has been married now for almost one year. I have three children and my husband has three children. Thing's have been going good with the kids because until now we have had only visition with his kids every other weekend. As of May 1 st we will have full custody of the kids and I am worried that there is going to be a problem with the kids adjusting to having each other arond all the time. The age range is from 5 years to 12 years. My daughter is the only girl and he has three girls. I am worried about her feeling left out. When they are together they seem to get along ok.. there are days that we have to step in alot but on the average they are just kids. Does any one have any advice on how to make this merge easier on the kids and less stressful on us???
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 07
So you have one girl and two boys and your husband has three girls. I think that as they already know each other it should be possible that they will quickly adjust to having each other around all the time. Treating them equally, with age consideration, would be helpful. Sharing toys is likely to be something that could bother the younger children. The older children might have worries about space, like sharing bedrooms. It would help to buy some extra storage so none of the childen feel that there is nowhere for their things. Taking them all out for treats will also help make your merge easier. Allow time for you and your husband in the evenings. This will make things less stressful for you. Also try to have good communication links with your husband. Good luck. It will be lovely for you to have such a large family once you get used to it.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I think that the most important thing you need to do is make sure you listen to tye childrens needs. Make sure you include all the children when you are doing things. If you buy for one you buy for all. Always try to explain why you decide to let one do something and not another.
I have been able to combine my partners 2 children, my 3 children, and a couple of nephews. As long as you leave open communication then it will work.
