What do you think about people that

Growing up in the 50's turned me a bit old fashioned, you've heard it said you make your bed, you lie in it. Well that's what I did. I was a single mother for the first few years but I eventually got married. Although my husband never hit me he was very verbally abusive and he and I were just not meant to be a couple although I lived like that for 17 long miserable years. After many years passed my daqughter told me if I only knew how many times she nearly asked me if we could run away someplace and be just the two of us. I would have left in a heartbeat if I knew that. I have grown up and have had time to realize Yes it is our job to provide our children with the best and ideally they should have both sets of parents. I now believe this is still true but only if it's possible. The children are much better off with one caring parent than two fighting parents any day in my opinion.

I don't think they should stay together just for the kids if they are not happy and do not get along. If they are arguing and fighting every day or close to it then they are not helping the kids at all. I think there are ways to make it work without staying together and getting nowhere.

i dont belive that people should stay together for the sake of the kids.its something that should be sorted out

If they are only staying together for the sake of the kids that is wrong. I know that they are probably thinking of the kids but they don't realize that the kids can feel the stress in the air. Kids are flexable. What needs to be done is sit the kids down and talk with them along with your spouse. Explain that you can no longer live together with mom/dad and make absolutely sure they know that they are not the cause of the break up. Kids do think along those lines. Make sure they understand that who ever doesn't have the kids understands that they are still their parent. That that will never change or love for the kid. It won't be easy but if you handle the situation right the kid will understand as far as they can and just give them a lot of love and attention and reassurance. After they are talked to allow them to ask questions and answer them openly.

Not a good idea ot stay together for the kids if they bicker all day long. I wish my parents divorced. I hate the constant bickering. Everday it will happen. My routine became - coming home from school, go to my room, come out for meals then go back in to the room again. Do stay together if both parties can keep their differences aside when the kids are around.