How would you feel if someone bangs down the phone on you?

@hopeful28 (1439)
Singapore
April 20, 2007 5:57am CST
Have you ever experienced either family members or friends hanging up on you while you were talking to him/her halfway? It happened to me more than once and I really felt hurt because I don't think it is a very nice thing to do, even if the person on the other end is angry with something I've said. They should at least tell me that they would prefer to continue the conversation another day and not just bang down the phone. I will never do this to anyone unless it is a nuisance call or some pervert trying to be funny.
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@rainbow (6763)
20 Apr 07
This has never happened to me, but I have done it. My ex used to ring me and not talk quite often so I used to put the phone down, suppose that doesn't count really, lol. I'm sorry it happened to you, I cant imagine you could make anyone that angry sweetie!
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
20 Apr 07
well, i guess you have reasons for doing so. but atleast i hope you are able to say bye bye to that person or atleast explain your side somehow.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Lol, some people do not need much provocation to do things like banging down the phone. If they are not happy with my response to whatever they are saying they may just do it without warning. Maybe that's why it's so difficult to say no to certain people because of what their reaction might be.
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I have had people hang up on me. When people do this to me, it's so rude, I never call them back. Period. Someone hangs up on me, i don't talk to them again until they apologize. If they don't apologize, too bad for them. The relationship is over. Be an adult, don't act like a child.
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@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
20 Apr 07
yep. my ex boyfriend for 8 years. whenever i check out on him, he always gave me this strong voice telling me to shut up and mind my own business... then hang up after without letting me finish what i am saying. and for sure, i won't do it to anyone else. maybe even if i am mad or angry or busy.i will either say that it's not the right time to call me and that i'll call her after i am okey.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
I definitely approve of your way of thinking. If anyone tells me to shut up and mind my own business I would do just that - leave him alone until he feels like calling. I don't understand why some people have the heart to do such things.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
20 Apr 07
LOL I don't like it when someone does this and honestly can only think of one time that it happened to me and looking back now it really was funny. My daughter and I were disagreeing and she banged the phone down on me. I called back and when she answered I did the same thing to her, she called me and did it again, I called her and did it a second time - I then disconnected my phone so she couldn't call again, I was determined to get the last word, or hangup in.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Rofl! You seem to have enjoyed it in retrospect. Pity the phone - it is the innocent victim in this exchange. Hope things got sorted out in the end though.
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Actually, I think I always know when someone is angry and when the person is about hanging up so I hang up first, at least, for all I can remember.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Lol, I wish I have your guts but I rather people bang down the phone on me rather than vice versa. Not that it feels any better though but at least I don't stoop to their level.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 07
Well to be honest it happened to me lots of times when I was married as my Exhusband made a habit of it Yes I have had it done to me by a Friend to but as far as I was concerned she asked advice she got it she didn't like it and she put the Phone down I did not ring her, she rang me and I told her not to ever ask me for advice again if that is how she will react and she put the Phone down again, I have not spoken to her since. I wrote her an Email and asked her not to ring me again. I don't mind helping People but when they get an attitude and then talk behind my back that is not a Friend
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 May 07
Hi gabs, it doesn't sound like that friend appreciate your advice and to think that she hung up again after she called you back the second time! I hope she did some self-evaluation after reading your email.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
4 May 07
Sweetie I hope so to as she said a few Hurtful things before she hung up on me to
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
I never did it to anyone even once in my life but someone did it to me many times. I think thats a very rude thing to do. Its like they havent taught with good manners and i really hate it.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 May 07
Yep, it definitely is bad manners to do such a thing, and what's more to do it several times. If that person is family member or a friend who is undergoing a bad period in her life, I would condone them but if it is a person who has a bad attitude then I would really not want to have much to do with her any more.
24 Apr 07
yes this has happened to me in the past and i hate it, it makes me feel really bad and i always try to call the person back and then hate it even more when they don't answer to me
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 May 07
Unlike you, I won't call the person back. Having the phone banged down on me once is good enough and anyway the message is clear - they don't want to continue the conversation. Sometimes it is better to wait a few days if the issue is worth pursuing or just forget about it.
@MrNiceGuy (4147)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I cannot stand it when people hang up on me. I find it so insulting and so demeaning that someone would hang up and not give me a chance to settle something. I think its counter productive and it usually means that we're not on the same page, so if you hang up on me, I'm not agreeing with you... I feel disrespected.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
True, it does feel insulting when someone just hangs up in the middle of a conversation. It will feel like the issue was unresolved.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
21 Apr 07
Oh I hate that so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And yes, I do feel hurt, specially because I will never do that to anyone. If I am upset, I just tell the person that I really need some time and need to hang up. IF for some reason a call gets disconnected when I'm talking to someone I always call back again just to let the person know that I didn't hang up on her/him. Unfortunately I've had quite a few people hanging up on mw, including my own mom LOL Oh well.. I had to learn to live with it, but I still don't like it.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Seems like our opinions are similar. I wouldn't hang up on someone without prior warning unless it is a nuisance call. Also, my mom has hung up on me a few times. Although I just take it in my stride but I still feel hurt by it.
• United States
21 Apr 07
The only time I have done this or had this done to me was when I was fighting with my girlfriend. We've been together for 2 years now and has happened a couple of times. It didn't really hurt my feelings that she did this to me because I was mad at her. She also said it didn't hurt her feelings but just made her more mad at me. It's not a very nice thing to do. I think they should tell you why they are hanging up on you before they do it. So there isn't any confusion on why it happened. They owe you that at least.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
I do agree that it would be nice if people do let us know in advance that they will be hanging up the phone even when they are mad with us. At least there will still be room to clarify things later.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I think it's very rude when smebody does that, Just think of this how would they like it if we did it to them?
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Maybe to people who do it often to others they won't mind if they get back the same treatment. If they do mind, then hopefully they will then learn that they have to stop doing to others first.
@gemini1960 (1162)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
i have experienced that many times, and yes imalso feel irritated and hurt by it, but i have to understand sometimes especially if it is my sister who always do that to me,she got a little temper and i learned to adjust to it anyhow.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
I'm glad you understand your sister and make allowance for her. It tells me that you are a person who values your relationship with your family members.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
20 Apr 07
Oh yes one of my children are very good at doing this when they don't like to be told the truth about something that I have to say to them, of course it is not nice to do to anyone never mind if it is your own family as it makes you upset with them. Yes I only do this myself if it is a nuisance call or someone swearing over the phone.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Oh my dear Kathy, it must be very hurting to have your own children do that to you. Usually for me it is vice versa, lol. Sometimes when I am trying to explain something to my mom and she doesn't like it she will just hang up. It hurts but then, she's my mom.
• United States
20 Apr 07
I don't mind it at all. Let them bang their phones down. It's not my phone they're breaking anyway. If they're angry, let 'em be angry. It won't matter anyway.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Lol, I really learn alot from all the varied responses I am getting to this discussion. I think this kind of attitude is a blessing where this issue is concerned. This way it doesn't affect you much.
@cutiedhes (508)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I haven't experience that luckily because it really hurts if someone has done that right? But I have done that but not to my family or even friends. To those people who has nothing to do with their lives and just suddenly calls on you with no words to say you'll just hear his breath and it feels so gross that i tend to hang up the phone so that he could not call anymore.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Yep, I have also experienced that and I react as you do - put an end to the call and then leave the phone off the hook.
@monalizra (219)
• Romania
20 Apr 07
very very very bad... it ruind all my day or maybe my entire week
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Hey monalizra, I also have the same problem. When such things happen it will affect me for some time before I can get over it.
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
Yeah that happen to me once when I called the house of my friends and someone from there house answered it.. I'm still talking then she hung up on me. x After an hour that friend of mine texted me and then she called. I tell her to lecture the people in there house cause it seem like they don't know the etiquete of of using the phone. After then I lessen my call to there house.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
I'm glad you alerted your friend about the person who hung up on you rudely. And I hope your friend was able to help that person know that her gesture wasn't well taken. Some people need to have things brought to their notice otherwise they will never learn.
@mywords18 (645)
• United States
20 Apr 07
well its very simple,,havent u banged phone ever on someone well i have and i feel the same the way the person on the other side feel whn i bang the phone on him or her ,,,,,,,,and we all have reasons for being angry and upset buts it not forever ,so never mind.
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@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
Oh yes, I admit I have done it - to the few people who are really perverts especially strangers who call out of the blue and just spout nonsense that aren't nice hearing. If it is someone I know, I will usually let them know that I will be hanging up before I do it.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
20 Apr 07
here I am ...it happened to me...more than once, too and it was the boyfriend I was in love with at the period of time in which these bad things happened..I do agree with you that they have no excuses for such a terrible behaviour. It hurt me very much when it happened and it helped me discover what a bad person was the man I was in love with. It is a matter of respect. I am not a killer or a bad woman.we were not discussing over an awful matter like me seeing another man or so on...so there is no excuse..it was a bad, vulgar action and it offended me..I have done this once after having him done it to me...only to let him know how it is when it happens to you..it was the only way for him to listen to me and to try to understand my feelings..of course now everything is over and I thank God who helped me get rid of such a bad person, a person bad for me of course
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
24 Apr 07
My ex-boyfriend was like that too. He was the one who could say all sorts of nasty, accusing things to me and then bang down the phone on me leaving me hurt and sleepless through the night. But when I do it to him he has the gall to demamnd why I did that to him. I guess that these 'little' things tells us alot about a person and we will be wise to just avoid them and have nothing to do with them. Imagine having to live under the same roof with such a person...