friends or lovers?

lovers and friends - this cute photo symbolizes friendship. The love one gives to a friend and the love shared between two lovers. Whether it be just plain friends or already lovers, the love share will be of the same sincerity and depth and vigor.
Philippines
April 20, 2007 7:42am CST
Do you believe that ex-lovers can become good friends or that good friends can become lovers? I certainly think that the manner by which you have departed with you ex will determine if you will still become good friends, or even just friends. If a couple's separation turned out with hurt feelings, then what will remain is just civil relationship. The world is too small as not to be able to accidentally bump into your ex. So if you suddenly meet in a mall, all you can do is quickly try to ignore although circumstances will dictate that the more you want to ignore, the more chances of meeting will happen. But anyway, rarely do people become good friends after a breakup, unless of course their relationship wasn't that deep or they probably were just having a superficial, "play around" relationshiop sort of thing. How about you, what ideas can you share?
4 responses
@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
20 Apr 07
I don't really think the way you think, but on a contrary, I think there is posibility of ex-lover and good friends becoming lovers no matter the what happened between them, but it is very difficult. It will only happen, if both of them ignore all what happened in the past. Have a nice day.
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I can now recall the movies I have watched where this situation happens. I just hope that it does not really just happen in the movies but also in real life...What they refer to as "showbiz" people experience this kind of "come and go" relationship but in the real sense, rarely do we have ex-lovers come together again. thanks for your reply
• Malaysia
20 Apr 07
i believe that good friends CAN become lovers but ex-lovers CANNOT become good friends. it just brings back the memories and i sure dont want to be reminded. i havent seen my ex since forever. he wants to meet up but i have given him a million excuses to not meet him. i dont see a point of meeting him.. what are we going to talk about? his life after me? i dont think so.. there's just no wayy exlovers can be goodfriends. but i believe good friends can become lovers.. if the chemistry is there & is felt by both sides. love is mutual thing.. it cannot be one sided. it just doesnt work that way
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
You are definitely right in saying that love is a mutual thing. It's true that if love is given by just one party, that love or relationship surely wouldn;t last long...of if it indeed lasted, it lasted because one was a martyr and was not at all totally happy with life....It should be a give and take for both partners, or better yet each one just gives and gives and until each feels the overflow of love and care and the relationship does last long. Thanks
@palina77 (1177)
• United States
20 Apr 07
In my opinion ex-lover is like a rotten egg to me. 'X' is use as negative so I have negative attitude with any X or ex. Ex-friend may reunion with some motive but cannot be a lover and ex-lover not a lover or friend. X-part is useless or worthless parts, so I hardly in favour of ex-friend but will be more caution to deal with such ex and ex-lover not chance. (Exception is everywhere).
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I agree with you that it is difficult to be close again with the person you once were close with but have become separated, especially if the reason for the separation was about the other person and not about you. And the gap just seems to get bigger and bigger. But i'm sure that we will get over with the negative feeling and the hurt with time......
@touchnshine (2821)
• India
20 Apr 07
Ex - lovers can't be friends in my opinion. I just hate the idea of getting them back in my life again because there was some reason for which they become EX -- and there is something negative about them which can never change to positive ..
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
There is still a small percentage that the two who have separated will have some kind of connection....some can be that they get back together again for some reason, others would be they remain friends, and still others just become civil all throughout their life. The only positive thought we can have is that everything that happens indeed happens for a reason.....thanks for your cooment