Are you the eldest, youngest, only or in the middle...?
April 20, 2007 2:36pm CST
I am the youngest of five brothers. Although being the youngest i had a lot more freedom than my elder brothers, i did not have a sense of identity. i was being compared to them as they were known the brainy ones. Though I learnt to stand up for myself I was always looked down on as being the young, immature, inexperienced . The eldest one still feels I am the black sheep in the family!! It is funny because growing up I thought they were favorite, and I was the one who got treated unfairly! But now when I talk to my other brothers they thought it was the other way around. I realise now that I enjoyed being the youngest. It was nice to think I had older brothers and now I feel I can go to them for advise whenever I needed. So how have you grown? Are you the eldest, youngest, only or in the middle? Share your thoughts and experience.:)
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24 Apr 07
Hi. I am fifth out of six - two females and four males and i am the younger of the two females. Growing up with my elder sister wasn't easy. It was as if we were competing. She being the eldest was always considered right by my parents and other siblings and i was always wrong. This made us not too close. But now, as adults we understand ourselves better and the relationship has improved greatly. Cheers!
• United States
24 Apr 07
I am the eldest of four, and now that we are all grown and having children of our own, I am still expected to be the mediator, the example setter, the advice giver, the listener, the one who holds it all together... It's kind of nice. I enjoy my brothers and sister and am glad I have them in my life, even if they are still big pains in the butt!
• United States
20 Apr 07
I don't know that there is any child who doesn't feel some sort of negativity toward their birth order. There are likely always positives and negatives regarding our birth order. In my case, I was an ONLY child. Yes, this was full of negatives and positives! Being the only child meant that my parents focused ALL of their attention on me, which can be overwhelming. It meant too that I didn't have to learn to share my space or belongings. Going to college was a really new experience for me, having to share a small dorm room with another person, having never shared a bedroom of three times that space anyone! I longed for playmates. Of course my parents were great about letting me have friends over whenever possible, but I longed for those situations that I heard my friends speak of...all night talks with a sister, even the sibling fights sounded fun! All-in-all, I had an awesome life with awesome parents. Again, I think there is good and bad in any birth order situation!
24 Apr 07
i am the middle child, we are five in the family, my parents , i have one younger brother and a older sister. my job in the family is when there is a conflict between anyone, i was there to weigh the issue and arguments, if there is a big problem, i lead the family for meeting and we discuss the issue. i am always in between, that is why i was place in the middle, i listen to both sides at all times just to weigh any options on how to resolve crisis. i am bothered if our family have conflict and when i did not resolve it, i see to it that i had done to resolve it at the end of the day. i have this kind of feeling of fullfilment if i had done something appropriate.
12 Jul 08
I am the eldest. I have only 1 younger brother and we are only 1yr 3 months apart so it didn't really feel like I had to look out for him. We looked out for each other. We shared alot of friends, traveled in the same lift club to university. But I think I had to learn and explore things on my own whereas when he started school or university I was there to show him around, where to go what to do and not to do. I do sometimes wish I did have an elder sibling that would paved the way for many of the things that as first born I had to "fight" for. But it wasn't bad being the eldest. I was my father's favourite being the girl and my brother was my mother's favourite although neither of them admitted as much.
13 May 07
I am the eldest among 5 siblings. Being the the first born, i had all the attentions and pampering of all the family when i was born because i am the first grand daughter. Growing up with my siblings, being the eldest has its fun and hardships too. I get to be blamed for sibling's petty fights because i am older i should be the one to give way. I had more responsibility to make too like taking care of the younger ones and i am obliged to help in the housework. Well, its ok to do some houseworks because one should learn those. But however, although my siblings were also taught to help in the house, they get away from doing or helping most of the time and my parents do not scold them. But when i am the one who did not do things, they do not let it slip. After graduating from school, i had to work to help the family because that is one of my responsibility as the eldest. But it is alright, all the challenges in life i can face them because we are family.
22 Jun 07
I am the eldest , the biggest , the cutest and the only son of my parents :) sorry for that yes i am a single child of my parents , its fun sometimes but sometimes i miss a bro or a sis .It would have been fun if i had a baby sister to spoil or a baby brother to coax any ways thats life we cant have everything we want :)
24 Apr 07
I am in the middle. I have an older brother and a younger sister. I can say that I dont like being the one in the middle. Like many other people say, the disadvantage is that when there is dispute between me and my older brother, she'll say. "You should respect your brother. He is older than you." But when in dispute with my little sister, here is what she usually says, "Youre older that your sister, you should know better".. nyehehehe! Isn't it unfair?
• United States
23 Jun 07
I am the youngest but I learned at a very young age that I had to respnsible for my actions. This taught me to grow up quick. Im just as if no way more mature than my older brother which is 3 years older than me. I have a little girl now and she 6 and the only child so far, I hope that she is as mature and responsible as I am as she grows.