Were You Bullied in High School or Jr. High?

@gtargirl (5385)
United States
April 20, 2007 4:06pm CST
Do you remember the name of your school's bully? Did you have one of those? Or were you the bully? Heavens no, say it's not so. And if your children are being bullied, what would you do? Would you even know they are being picked on? My son's backpacked was slashed by a boy who had it in for him for one reason or another. How he got a knife into the school is beyond me. In any case, it's just a question.
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• United States
20 Apr 07
I remember that I used to be bullied when I was in middle school (6th grade), but after that, it just all stopped. In high school there were these kids who claimed to be in gang and the majority of them were Asian. Being Asian myself, some of the other students thought that I was in a gang also, but that was not the case. People soon realized this by the time I was a junior and they just saw me as another ordinary kid. I never really had a problem with bullies in school.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
20 Apr 07
That sure is good to hear. It's nice to be another ordinary kid. Kind of makes us extraordinary, I think. Have a great weekend.
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Yes, his name was Andy, and he lived down the block from me. Fortunately, he was terrified of one of my best friends at the time (my friend was not particularly intimading; to this day it remains a mystery as to why Andy feared him), so I was spared ever having to experience his wrath. But other kids were not so lucky. Some kids (especially boys) may be too ashamed to reveal that they are being bullied. Hence if they are acting withdrawn or depressed a parent might have to probe a little to determine if they are being bullied. Once you establish that they are indeed being bullied, then, in my opinion, it should be reported to school authorities. Regarding the incident with your son: Wow, that's disturbing. Even if the incident were provoked (and I use this in the mildest sense of the word), it was an unconcionable act of aggression that, in my opinion, ought to be reported. That's a good question -- how did this kid get a knife into school? It's a question that needs to be answered and addressed immediately.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I'm glad to hear you never experienced Andy's wrath. Not so good for other kids though. And as far as my son, the school counselor reported the boy who was then expelled. I homeschool now for a lot of different reasons but that incident was probably one of the reasons why.
@juls2me2 (2151)
• United States
20 Apr 07
No, I wasn't bullied in High School or Jr. High. Actually in Elementary School I remember being in 4th grade and some 6th graders were trying to bully me around and make one of my peers fight me...for no reason. Of course I ignored them, but they eventually caught up with me afterschool and made the other girl start a fight with me. Not wanting to fight, but having to protect myself...I took the girl down. The older kids had to get me off the other girl and I was ready to take on the older girls. They ran off. After that incident, I was never bothered by bullies or anyone. Believe it or not...the girl that I had to fight and I became friends about an hour after the fight. I've always told my kids to never provoke a fight, but be prepared to protect yourself if someone starts something. Today's school system is crazy, because even if you protect yourself...you get in trouble any more, but you've gotta do what you've gotta do. In the Real World you have the right to protect yourself.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Yes, you're so right. That is good advice for our kids--don't provoke a fight but protect yourselves. I hate those "fine line" issues.
@student7 (1002)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I was bullied in elementary school and jr. high school. My stepmother worked at the elementary school and she dressed me like a dork. So naturally when I began jr. high school I had the stigmata with me. I had two bullies their names were Ruby Lucero and Heather Ballard. They were a year older than me. They hit me till I was black and blue and kicked me in the kidneys. They even shut my locker on my fingers. There was nothing I could do. Then in high school, I went to a different high school and it all stop. I gained my own identity and was bully free. I home school my children so I don't have to worry about bullies.