What would you do?

United States
April 20, 2007 4:48pm CST
What would u do if your mom kick you out of the house, with your infant daughter. And had no were to go, so u had to live with your sister and her abusive husband. And when u ask her why she kick u out, she said that the manger of her apartment complex said that to many people were living there. So she went on to say that she did not want to move to a bigger palce, and if she had to decide between her or her daughter. She would choose herself. She dose not want to be put out on the streets. Even though the daughter said she will help with rent and food. She didn't want me to be around, it hurt so bad. It has been 3 years since i've talked to her, and she still thinks she did nothing wrong. She is so selfish, and get this my sister is living with her now. My sister's husband left her and so she ask my mom if she can live with her. And my mom said yes, even though she had a place to stay. When I asked she said no, and living with my sister was hell. I think she favors her, and I'm sick of it. Now my mom wants us to come and visit her. Like nothing ever happened,and I don't know what to say to her.
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@rodeotexas (1154)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Well I would be pissed that she did that in the first place. Then I would tell her you don't know if you want to and you have to think about it since she kicked you out before since "the apartment complex said too many people were living there." I would think long and hard about this before I answered.
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• United States
20 Apr 07
Being the vengeful person I am, I wouldn't let her set eyes on my kid until she was ready to look my kid in the face and say "Grandma's sorry she put you out." I don't worry about me, if it were me, I'd be like "fk her!" But my kid, no way NE1 is ever going to treat my kid badly and get by with it.
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@cmickieuk (109)
13 May 07
I wouldn't make it easy for her... I would go on your own and talk to her... and make her understand and ask her about your sister moving back in and so on :( Good luck xxx
• Canada
30 Apr 07
I feel really badly for you. I cannot imagine how a mother could even think of kicking her own flesh and blood (and with an infant too!)out into the cold. This was a very sad situation. I for one, get into spasms of separation anxiety when my son and my daughter even joke about moving out! My problem is the opposite--I have been accused of being overprotective and my son, 29, and my daughter, 24, laugh at me for being such a wimp! I don't know how you feel about this advice: be the better and bigger woman and forgive her. Who knows, she may have mended her ways and now realize the garbage she put you through. Only you can decide what to do, however. But one thing for sure--because you know how rejection feels, you know best how to raise your daughter. Unconditional love is the way to go. Blessings to you, mommey, you sound like you have a really strong character. Preserve your self-worth--no one, not even a parent, should be allowed to take that away from you. Lots and lots of hugs to you! If you were my daughter I'd definitely keep you (esp. when you say you'll help with rent and food! LOL) Here's lots and lots of hugs to you and the baby! {{{*}}}
@Impervious (1154)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I feel ya there. It sucks, but I guess at this point you have to decide which is more important being right or having a relationship with your mother. I know that you were hurt. I have been there. But how would you feel if she dropped off the earth tomorrow. I don't want you to think that I am suggesting that you were wrong just that all of that is in the past and you now have a choice. I am assuming that things are better for you now. ( as much as I hate to assume ) But perhaps your life would be very different had that not happened. Good luck, Paul
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Well, in your position, I wouldnt have anything to do with her. I dont think I would hold it againdt your sister but I would avoid your mother at all costs. And I definately wouldnt let her see your daughter. Take care!!
• Canada
22 Apr 07
I would tell her "tough $hit!" It's her problem for not treating you respectfully in the first place, and you had a BABY! Some people are just nuts!! I'm living on my own, and I'm lucky enough that my boyfriend who is working in AZ, said I could come down there anytime. I would be down there now, but my grandfather is ill, so I want to be up here with him.