Sorry seems to be the hardest word, Can you apologise??

Sadness - Sorry seems to be the hardest word
April 23, 2007 6:34am CST
In our lives there are lots of times when that one little tiny word is all that stands between you and resolution of things. An argument over money perhaps, a misunderstanding, even something as petty as not hearing something said. Two people, both right and both wrong, now locked in an argument with no solution, yet all it would take is one person apologising. That one little tiny word*Sorry* makes all the difference in the world yet why is it such a hard word to say?? Can you apolgise to someone or is it so difficult for you to say sorry
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@emjay9 (249)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
i can say sorry and really mean it but it would really take me a lot of courage. i am a person with great pride so it is hard for me to lower my self and accept that i am wrong. maybe that is the reason why we have difficulty to say the word. our pride gets in between. we don't want to accept that we too are capable of mistakes and hurting others. but what i do is think again and again what really happened and how much that person means to me. i gather up all my courage and swallow my pride and say sorry. even though i wasn't the one who made a mistake, if i know that he/she has a bigger pride i still make the first move. there was this time where i got into a fight with someone for a very shallow reason and the truth is it's his fault. knowing him that he would never accept his mistake i just said sorry. but when i got the chance i told him that he has that attitude, of not owning up to his mistakes. back to the question. to sum it all up yes it is very difficult to say sorry if we let pride get in the way. it doesn't matter who or what caused the feud, just let it go and forgive. it's really not a light feeling to have qa fight with someone.
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23 Apr 07
Seeing two people in a fight like this is very hard to deal with. One will not apologise and the other cannot apologise. You are right about pride, I believe that is at the root of the issue here. Thank you for your comments
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@emjay9 (249)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
pride is really such a powerful thing. if only we could all get pass it we would have less fights. but it's human nature and i think that little fights make our life more interesting and help us learn. by the way thanks for marking me best response :)
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• Philippines
23 Apr 07
Yes I can apologize! although... yes!!! it seems the to be hardest word indeed for me to say when I got mistake, but I still say it, the feeling of being forgiven is very nice, it's like the burdens you are carrying are being unloaded just of saying SORRY!!! SORRY seems to be the hardest word...... But being forgiven by someone is a fulfillment.
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23 Apr 07
Your words make a lot of sense hun, forgiveness is vital
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@xionous (439)
• Belgium
24 Apr 07
i always love 2 say sorry. its such a word that can turn impossible 2 possible. forgiveness is a great virtue. sometyms sorry really seems 2 b the hardest word. wen there is a big mess or something and u might find it tough to say sorry, but other than that sorry is the perfect word.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
23 Apr 07
I apologise way too much at home. That's probably why my wife walks all over me! It's so much easier than arguing though.
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23 Apr 07
Sorry is such a powerful word, it can bring peace to discord and harmony to hell :-)
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• Canada
23 Apr 07
I can say Sorry if I know I'm in the wrong. However, I'm also very stubborn, and if I know I'm right, then I refuse to apologize just to end the argument. For me, it's all about sticking to what I believe. Unfortunately, my partner also has the same type 1 personality and so we've been locked in some tough battles of wills before lol. I absolutely hate fighting, but I won't back down if I know I'm right. I stand up for what I believe in and nobody will get me to back down on that. Sorry is one of those small words that can make everything right. However, said without meaning and it's nothing.
23 Apr 07
I can be very stubborn too hun, and although I can see both sides to this argument, I still feel they should both apologise and put the row behind them.
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• United States
23 Apr 07
if i truly did something wrong,and i know it,i don't have a problem.but i've had people in my life who've accused me of doing something (that i did not do) and still expect an apology. in that case,they'll be waiting a long time before that ever happens.
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23 Apr 07
Understandable hun. I couldn't apologise if I was innocent either
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• Malaysia
23 Apr 07
erm.. sorry is not the hardest thing to say.. but it's really the hardest in some situation.. let's say you've been misunderstood a person for a long time. maybe 10 - 20 years.. do you still have the courage to apologise to them? or you'll just wish that they will actually forget how you treat them? i think sorry is just a polite manner if you done something wrong.. and everyone must learn to say it.. i've friend that always say sorry no cure.. and things like this.. is it true? why sorry no cure? it means you're not being open enough to forgive a person.. don't you think so? :)
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23 Apr 07
Thank you for your contribution. Saying sorry takes courage sometimes, particularly in a situation where two people are both right and both wrong.
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• United States
24 Apr 07
i personally have no problem saying sorry when something is my fault. I would feel worse if I didn't say sorry to the person for what I did. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone needs to say sorry at times
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@lissaj (532)
• United States
24 Apr 07
It's very hard to say you are sorry, unless you truly believe it. We never want to admit we are wrong and having to do that just to end an argument seems to be the hardest thing to do. I can apologize, but I won't apologize for thinking something if I believe it. I will apologize for arguing over it though.
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@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I don't have issues about saying I'm sorry, so long as I know I was actually wrong..or if I hurt them more than I should have. Usually if niether of us can see clearly enough to find a solution to the argument I usually sugest we take a day or so to clear our heads, before we talk again. I just think its the best thing to do. In the end both of us end up saying sorry.
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23 Apr 07
You are probably right hun, both parties need to sit down and talk.
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@bnza10 (26)
• Australia
24 Apr 07
yeah, i say it all the time. whats so hard about saying sorry? as long as you know you dont mean it then its fine.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
23 Apr 07
hello,recycledgoth,I think 'sorry' is a powerful words,when you really feel gulity about yourself,when you feel like you owe yourself something because you cannot help them, sayign sorry is the only way to make you and your friend feel better. I will apologise when I am late or when I cannot join a party with my friends or I do something wrong, it is easy to say but people will forgive you after you say sorry.
23 Apr 07
Hello hun. I'm feeling really bad at the moment because I can see both sides of the argument and can understand why neither will make the first move.
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@cutiedhes (507)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
In my case yes, for me saying sorry is really hard for me to say. I mean literally if ever I would say sorry to someone I would just write a letter to express my apology or just talk to it the normal way as if nothing happens. Because I am just a person who can't really express my feelings towards others. That's why sometimes if ever I want to tell something to others to express my feelings I would just write them letters showing them how i feel.
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23 Apr 07
At least you would try to make the effort, if only in a letter. thanks for your contribution
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@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
24 Apr 07
Hi recycledgoth, your right it is a hard little word to say, when most times thats all it takes to resolve matters. I find it easy to apologise and say sorry, if I've upset anyone, I find it easy to forgive and forget. Though there was a time in my life where I couldnt say sorry or be apologetic, I found it easier to think and speak of revenge lol. Now days its no problem, I can easily apologise without a doubt. I think maybe its a pride thing, I dont know? Maybe it is maybe not?
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@pvoegtli (55)
• Switzerland
24 Apr 07
You are completely right. Sorry is a tiny word. It makes all the difference in the world. But I do not think that it is difficult to say "Sorry". However, one should not just say "Sorry" for a futile thing. And above all, if one says "Sorry" it should be really meant and from the heart.
@funfreak2k2 (1734)
• India
23 Apr 07
sorry seems to be a small word but it hides huge ego behind it. that is the reason people go back when comes to apologies.
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@coldmoon (1088)
• France
23 Apr 07
Yes, sorry is really the hard word, but it's not impossible to say. If I made mistakes, I would say "sorry". Personally, I'm not too conservative to dare to admit my faults. However, in my opinion, realizing that we're wrong is more difficult than saying sorry.
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@mummymo (23706)
23 Apr 07
I am terrible - I am always sayong sorry! I have been given a row and told to stop apologising to which i reply - yep you guessed it - sorry!
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• China
24 Apr 07
If I wrong,I will apologize.'Sorry ' is a very powerful word.It can solve any problem.And it's neccesary between life.
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@gasmas100 (585)
• India
23 Apr 07
well its pretty much the case with many ppl mate. I know that as I have a friend who knows that she wrong, but would never agree it.To add to it, when i convince her its her fault.she would still not say a sorry. I feel it is such a small word, but a big deal for her.really makes my blood boils at times. I used to apologies to her initially, but recently I too behave rather immature and say 'so what, its ok'.i feel its wrong but now seems tough for me to slip that word out of my mouth too.
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@AJNAG13 (137)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
there's nothing wrong about saying sorry.. the hardest part is if you really mean it. and promise not to do it again.
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