terrible twos,how to deal with them?

@kaevielf (246)
China
April 23, 2007 10:00pm CST
A toddler and his mom caught everybody's attention at the supermarket yesterday when the little boy started crying, screaming and hitting his mom on the face. As I understood, the little boy wanted to peel off and eat bananas from the table being displayed for sale,of course. The mother said "no" at least 4 times and tried to explain why as best as she could but the little boy insisted. The mother even tried to distract him but she failed. The boy had already thrown some bananas on the floor and there he went pouting at first then crying and screaming. Soon enough,the mother picked her son up and started spanking him on the bottom as they left the supermarket. Some commented that that was bad parenting. Some even said she is a bad mom. What about you? How do you look at the situation? What should or shouldn't be done?
1 person likes this
4 responses
@kakuemmom (862)
• Canada
24 Apr 07
I know my youngest would try to pull that crap when i took her out. If she started i would plop her in a cart and let her scream. I would not give in to her and if she was loud oh well i was not going to teach her that if she makes a big enough scene she would get her way. If it bothered ppl i am sorry but her well being is more important then others having to put up with a little noise for a min. If it got bad i would leave take her home then come back. As for spanking the child there is such a big difference between spanking and beating. I have used a spanking once or twice but only after other things have not worked and it was something real big and i wanted her to remember never to do it again. Our drive way is quite long and she is allowed to go to where the car ends and no further that way she won't accidentally run into the road. Well this one day she kept pushing her luck and would get closer and closer to the road. Then she ran right out and ran across the street to a friends house. Now i had told her at least 3 times not to go to the end i put her in time out and took away her pedal car and she still ran out. So when i got her i turned her over spanked her 3 times on the bum with my hand and through her clothes put her in her room for 5 mins and she has never run out again. So i think there is place for spanking but not to be used everyday for discipline.
2 people like this
@kaevielf (246)
• China
25 Apr 07
I agree to everything you said, kakuemmom. I can see you are a wonderful mom with sound parenting skills. Thanks for sharing your views. I am a first time mom and my daughter is only two years old. It's hard sometimes I feel like I don't know what I am doing.
2 people like this
• Canada
25 Apr 07
Being a first time mom is hard but it will come to you what is right and what is not. Most parenting is comen sense. Don't worry about making mistakes when parenting how will you learn. Its a learning process for sure. Do you have family or friends that you can call on for advice from time to time? My oldest is 17 next 14 and the youngest is 4 and believe me i have made plenty of mistakes through all there lives, I learned from them and poor Emma (youngest) she doesn't get to do as much as the others did cause now i know better lol.
1 person likes this
• United States
24 Apr 07
I don't think that there is anything that this women could have done that would have made everyone happy. Personal I would have taken her to the car and she would have at ther unti she as done cring and when she was done cring i would have told her that we do not behave that way in the store and that if she wanted some thing that she needed to ask for it nicely and take what evry answer I give her.
2 people like this
@kaevielf (246)
• China
25 Apr 07
That's a good one, too, floramwaters. I guess, when it comes to the well-being of our children, we don't care what others would say ( I mean, people giving comments about how bad or wrong our parenting style is) as long as we know from our hearts that we are doing the best we can to raise our kids to be their best self.
1 person likes this
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
24 Apr 07
Bananas are good for health but why his mom refused to give him i dont know but what she did with the boy was right in my view because what i saw in other cases are similar and they used the same method,as what i concluded by this is some kids are so stubborn that we cant control with words and even some with with the beating for this it is very bad to comment on their parenting and the parent.
@kaevielf (246)
• China
25 Apr 07
The mother didn't allow her child to peel and eat the banana because as the mother explained to her kid they have to go to the counter to pay first but the little boy refused to listen to his mom. You are right, rapolu_cs. The people shouldn't have commented that what the mom did was some kind of bad parenting or worse she is a bad mom because as they say, "mother knows best".
1 person likes this
@lafavorito (2964)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
My two year old son often insists on eating the food inside the cart when we're at the supermarket. It's a good thing that he doesn't throw tantrums like the boy you mentioned, yes my son will cry & scream but if he sees me or his dad frown he immediately lowers his head and does his hand action that means sorry. Upon seeing him apologize I take him into my arms and tell him what he did that made mom or dad a little bit angry. I'm also teaching him the fact that we still have to pay for the food before we can open it, though sometimes he would make us hurry to get to the cashier so that he can eat his food. Kids will always be impatient and the only thing we can do is to maintain calm because losing control is a very bad example. If the parent gets angry when he/she is frustrated it demonstrate to the child that it is alright to get angry if he/she doesn't get what he/she wants.
1 person likes this