I am deleting Friends
By jennybianca
@jennybianca (12912)
Australia
April 24, 2007 12:56am CST
This discussion only applies to all those new friends I received over the past few weeks,particularly when I sent out the request.
Many of you, & some from my earlier days with MY Lot, have never responded to one of my discussions.
I know some of you won't agree with this, but I honestly think that if I am going to receive notification of 15 discussions in one day from you, and I have responded to some of them, then at least you could respond to a few of mine.
There is no expectation that friends respond to every discussion, just a few now & then.
I am going through people's profiles, checking their responses, & deleting them.
So if you still want to be on my friends list, and have me respond to you sometimes, then you had better find some of my discussions & respond now.
My good friends know this does not refer to them, nor am I checking their profiles.
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@easy888 (10404)
• Australia
24 Apr 07
Hello,jennybianca,I think I may not have replied you enough, in fact I had missed alot of hte discussions from my friends as I could just turn on the notify buttons two weeks ago, I had been deleted by some members because of this reason. I understand what they think and i cannot change anything if they decide to delete me.
Anyway, good luck in mylot and I will see you in discussions hopefully if i will still be on your list.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
Definitely you are still on my list. It is only those who have never responded, & yet I receive up to 15 notifications per day from them.
@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
24 Apr 07
hi there jennybianca. i dont reply to all of your discussions, because sometimes i dont know what to say, and to only reply with nonsense is not me. but i enjoy each and every of your discussions. and this one is one where i am able to reply;-) keep up the good work and i understand why you do this.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
No problem. I don't know some of the discussions, quite a lot really.
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@meholl (510)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I reviewed some of your posts, and personally, I only found one that even peaked my interest, and I can see that you have a broad range of discussions, so you can't expect that every friend will respond to all of those discussions. Or maybe your friends read the discussions and find that they are completely not interested in it, or have nothing to say . I think you should send a message to each of your friends that don't respond to your posts as per your requirements to keep them as friends and find out why they don't respond.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
27 Apr 07
AS I stated before, I don't expect every friend to respond to every discussion. Why do you think I expect this? I haven't stated it anywhere.
I am not at all concerned that you only found one discussion of mine that vaguely interested you.
Instead of presenting lots of superficial topics, I try, at times, anyway, to find issues or news of interest.
Pity you are so negative, as I would have found some of your discussions interesting.
@paule4129 (968)
• United States
25 Apr 07
ow hope im not one of them im just startin to get back into it again please sponsor me lol hi jenny
@avonrep1 (1862)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I have thought about doing the same thing. Some of the users haven't been active in a while, others don't ever respond to my post, or even my responses, but want be my friend. I don't want my friends to respond to everything I write, but checking what I have written once a couple of weeks wouldn't hurt them either.
The other reason I have thought about doing that, is that when I go to find friends disussions, the page that comes up is all of the people who don't ever respond to me, so why so I write a response who someone who won't ever even acknowledge that I was even there.
Good idea Jennybianca, if you don't mind I may borrow it. LOL
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
26 Apr 07
Go ahead & borrow my idea. It will better for all of us if other My Lotters were fairer with their friends!
@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Good for you Jenny, I did this a few weeks ago myself, took quite a bit of time since I was over 300 friends, but I was so surprised out how many people on my friends list had not been on myLot in months, yes months, I wish there was a way that it would tell us when they responded to our discussions last, it would make organizing our friends list so much easier.
By the way, I have your discussions on notify but I guess myLot does not know this since I have yet to receive a notification when you start your messages ... Grrr .. I even wrote to them today, I hate being a pest but when you want to be notified when a friend starts a discussion that is the reason we put notify on, if they don't want to send out the email to us they should at least take that feature away from us ... thanks for letting me vent. Take care
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Jenny that is how I keep my friends at a managable number. How can anyone be a friend if they are not friendly and keep in touch?
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
24 Apr 07
i am responding and wish to remain on your friends list. i enjoy your posts and you always contribute excellent responses to my posts.have a great evening.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
If you check on my profile, I only have about 150 plus friends. Out of this few numbers of friends, only 10% of them are actively partaking on my discussions. 40% are just avatars. They have simply vanished out of thin air. 50% never responded to any of my threads and yet they kept posting new discussions every few minutes.
I have already did my first round of deletion a month ago. I was actually contemplating to go for the second round but decided to just leave them there and turned their notifier off. Friends come and go and I know I will still be receiving new friend's request everyday. I don't have the time to go through deleting friends anymore.
I can understand your sentiment, jenny. Like you, it was not my rule that everyone should respond to all my discussions. We all have the prerogative to choose whom to delete anyway. Good luck!
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@66jerseygirl (3877)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I got a little nervous reading your title til I got further and saw you were referring to newer friends.Scared me,lol.Anyway,I am with you. I have already deleted a couple who didn't answer. Thought what I would do is the last day of each month,go through my friends list and delete those who keep posting and getting responses from me but not answering mine. I don't understand why some people keep wanting to be freinds then ignore ya when you accept!
@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I hope I stay on your friends list! Sorry if I have not been responding enough! Thanks!
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
You are definitely staying on my friends list. it is only those who never respond, but start up to 15 notifications per day, that I am deleting.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I have been doing this lately as well with some of the Friends I have. I had to recently remove a couple just because they are not Active in here anymore as well, so why should I leave them on my Friends list. But I do try and give people a chance, and I do also go in and anytime someone responds to a discussion of mine, I will go in and try to post to a discussion of theirs, especially if they are on my friends list. I may not always get to post in this site as much as I would like each day, but I do try and give it my best.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
24 Apr 07
Amen jenny. I do the same. I've added a few recently that start many many discussions yet I have not seen them respond to a single one of mine. So go for it I say. Thanks and have a great day.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@gharinder (2044)
• India
27 Apr 07
yes i agree jenny that the friends should respond to atleast one or two discussions of their friends, i too have such friends who not even responded to single discussion, well its really disheartning .
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
Hello jennybianca..sorry if this past few days i wasnt able to respond some of your discussion.I limit my time on my lot because im in the office environment and just to drop if there is time availability and sad to say that i don't have a personal computer at home so i can make use of my time when im free from work. Hope you still keep me part of your friends list.Have a nice day.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
That is no problem. I understand you can only do My Lot when at your office.
You are a good friend.
Cheers
Jenny
@mummyofthree (2715)
•
25 Apr 07
My apologies for not responding lately. I have made the odd post to keep my friends updated. I have had major tecnical issues and have been off line and not using mylot for a while. But I am now back, hence finding your discussion here!
I hope you don't boot me off your list as I find your discussions very interesting, and always rate them even if I have nothing to contribute!
