Cheat = Forgiveness ?

@collstarx (1177)
Indonesia
April 24, 2007 10:52pm CST
Can you forgiveness if someone you love cheat you ? I can forgiveness if my lover cheat me but I can't accept them again. How about you all ?
7 responses
@signum (547)
• Australia
25 Apr 07
If they were to cheat on me that would mean they don't truly love me, even if they THINK they did, they can't have loved me to have done such a horrible thing. I would not forgive a cheat. It's the worst possible thing you could do in a relationship.
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@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Hohoho, different person, different think, good luck to you my friends. Best regards
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
i can forgive him, but not readily. it may take a while. as long as you still feel the hurt caused by his cheating, it would be hard to forgive him easily. accepting him back again is a different matter. the hurt and wounds may heal, but it may leave a scar. so depends on how hurt i was because of his cheating... if extremely hurt, i cannot accept him back. if my love for him is greater than the hurt that he has caused, i would probably accept him back... however, trust would be down to zero level. he has to build up the trust that he has broken before i could completely love him back once more.
@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Yes , very hard forgive someone who make broken heart, so hart. Best regards
@letzap519 (408)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
same here... i can forgive the one i love who cheated but it takes time for me to forget....forgiving includes forgetting what he have done to you....but i'll do the same thing i will not accept him anymore... i told my bf that once he cheated on me there will be no second chance... maybe even if we're already married....i think i will not be able to accept him anymore... but biblically....it says we should know how to forgive so that the Father in heaven will also forgive us in our sins.....
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@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Ok my friends, we must forginess another person who make wrong to us. Best regards
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
it aint easy to forgive someone whoz cheated on you..
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@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Yes , very hard actually but hate can make we can't forget in the past.
• United States
25 Apr 07
My concept of this issue is simple - I cannot run my partner's life as he has the right to live it as he or she wants and that is he can choose to be with anyone that he truly wants to be with - I understand that and I respect it. However, I think if anyone who is in a relationship is attracted to someone else must first end the existing relationship - so, if my partner cheats on me, I would understand BUT would not forgive or forget, it is simply not ethical and if he is mand enough to sleep around he should also be man enough to respect me and break up with me before doing that - this is just my opinion.
@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Ok my friends magdalena, a modern girl . Best regards
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I agree with you to some extent. If it is my boyfriend and he cheated on me, i can forgive him but i don't think the relationship will still work because everytime i'll look at him i'll always remember what he did. But if it will be my husband in the future (crossing my fingers that it will not happen), i'll fight for my marriage and hold on, probably untill i can truly admit to myself that we have no change anymore.
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@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Thanks my friends palace girl, good luck to you, happy always. Best regards
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I think if he cheats on me, i will still forgive him. because i know that somehow, i had faults too on why he will do that. I really want to make our marriage last so, i will forgive him.
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@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Thanks for sharing your story hope we can make better than the past. Best regards
@innechen (1321)
• Indonesia
26 Apr 07
cheat tabs - medicine for cheater lol
i think everybody deserve a 2nd chance, i can forgive my lover and i even take him back becoz he promise not to do it again,so after i see how sincere he is and prove the promise i dont mind.its not easy bcoz sometimes 1 mistake he make can make us suspicious everytime
@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
26 Apr 07
ok, yes I am agree with you, nonody perfect. Best regards