How to be an effective and a good father?
By tuayon_san
@tuayon_san (299)
Philippines
April 25, 2007 12:16am CST
I am 23 years old right and at the ge of 23 I am father already. At very young age I really don't know how to be an effective father to my look a like cute son like me heheee.
Right now he is 5 months old and I spend a little time for him everyday because I have a work everyday. His always with his mother. After my office hours went home and this is the only time we can spend each other.
But I do hope I do not skip somethings because I always see to it that everything is ready before I leave at home. For me his my everything right now and his my greatest gift that I had.
My son is my life and I want to make everything for him. Please help to balance everything. I really need your help norturing my son. What are the steps and guidelines to be a better and a good father.
Thank you very much for your help...
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4 responses
@jessemt35 (294)
• Qatar
28 Apr 07
Being a good father and an effective is being there with your family when they need you in all circumstances in life. Being a good father is being able to give what you have spiritually, emotionally and financially without counting the cost. At your age fatherhood will teach you a lot as you go on your journey with your family in this world. It will not only benefit your kids and wife but also yourself will learn a lot on this state in life that you enter. And foremost being a good father you must be spiritually and emotionally strong. Let God be your companion on the road to fatherhood and you will find it exciting, challenge and fulfilling.
@tuayon_san (299)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
Hi jessemt35 how are you doing today.
By the way thank you so much for your advice
and I really amazed with your thought.
and yes you're right...and I want to commend with
those things.
@tuayon_san (299)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
Are you a father too experiencing the same situations that I am?
@jessemt35 (294)
• Qatar
29 Apr 07
I am also a father like you at the age of 29 and I learn a lot from this state in life that I enter. It teaches me patience, courage, humility and most of all to love without counting the cost. It teaches me acceptance of all the things married life has in it. It teaches me to let go of the excess baggages a man can have before marriage. And most of all it helps me appreciate motherhood too. I learn to understand my wife and my kids because I was once a kid and I see myself in my kids and begin to appreciate what my parents does to me whether I perceive it before as something bad. But in all of this I learn to be more attentive to the spiritual aspect of life I began to walk with God in my daily life as a father and to tell you it gives me strength and courage to go on despite the ups and downs of a married for I believe in marriage it is not only a vow between man and woman but a covenant forever with God.
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@mdchennai (2129)
• India
27 Apr 07
Well friend, i think that you are too young to be a father, but that is ok. It is not that much difficult. Now since you have the responsibility of the family, you will have to spend more time with them. Try to spend less time with your friends. Return back home early from your office so that you spend time with your kid. Teach him good values. Get him things which will improve his intellectual knowledge. Be a good father, and also a good husband. I think you know what is right and wrong, so according teach your kid the right ones and see to it that it doesnt face the problems that you faced during your childhood :)
@tuayon_san (299)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
Thank you so much friend for your wonderful advice. I really really feel it. Yes friend thats what I am doing
always and my friends told me that I don't have time for them already and suddenly they will say "Dude don't worry we do understand your situation." and then every time its office off, they always say " Ok, your so is waiting for you now go and go home early." I really laugh every time I hear that words to them. And of course very happy coz I have a friends who are very understanding.....
I can also feel that you are a very nice friend even though we only knew for a few days..
Thank you so much again...
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Hey there. It's great that you're asking questions. You only need to be there for your son whenever he needs you, since you said he's always with his mother make sure that you're ready to support your wife. Mothers worry a lot and you should be the one who is calm. You said he's 5 months old, pretty son he'll learn how to crawl buy him some soft stuffed balls and play with him if he's awake when you get home from the office. During weekends you can take your baby and your wife for a stroll in the park where all of you can enjoy each others company. I hope I helped.
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@tuayon_san (299)
• Philippines
28 Apr 07
Yes of course, and thank you so much for your idea.
Yes right now his trying to crawl and by the time I get
home it seems his happy. Coz I always play with him, and teach him some basic words and others.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
just be yourself i guess, make sure to be there for him but not to the point of spoiling him though..
about you working...quality time is different from quantity time...even if youre there in longer hours with him but you guys are not happy together then it still doesnt value the relationship. just keep going! reflect on how your parents treated you when you were young..if you think the way they treated you made you bad as a person, i guess you dont want to apply the same thing to your son right?
goodluck!
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@tuayon_san (299)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Hi Daryljane! thanks for your advice..
You have point on that.
But I just can't relate how my parents brought me up.
The reason why I am asking a guide on how to be an effective father to son is that I couldn't relate to my parents coz they left me at the age of tow years old until and it almost 22 years. Now I know see and had conversation with my father coz after 5 years he went back but with other family. I never see the face of my mother until now. But Whatever there reason I don't wanna know it. and I don't care to her too......
