What to do please help ? Any suggestions?
By shila07
@shila07 (514)
Bhutan
April 25, 2007 3:31am CST
HI friends, iam so sad from yesterday onwards. Yesterday, i was half an hour late from my office to reach home because i was given works by my boss. WHen i reach home, i saw my husband very mood off. He was angry with me because iam late. believe me friends, i did nothing wrong. He tells nothing/ asked nothing but he did not talk to me from yesterday. Iam so upset. I told my mother inlaw, that i was give work so i was late, he heard me saying this. But still he doesnot talk to me. I get hurt when he doesnot talk to me. Actually, i want to tell you that this incident isn't for first time. SOme other time, when iam given extra work i had to stay longer in the office, he reacts in the same way. Iam so much worried thinking my marriage life may not be good hereafter. What should i do? Shall i resigned from my work? Is this happens to you too. What you do? Please help me and suggest me. Iam so sad and depressed.
3 responses
@SatoNa (247)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 07
Have you talked to him when he was in good mood? I think your husband will understand you. Hmm.. maybe you should call him before, and tell him that you will come home late because you have an extra work. Maybe he was so afraid with you. He afraid that something bad was happened with you..
I think you don't need to resign from your job. You will get bored in home.. Or you can go with your friends everyday. But, your husband will be very angry because you go out and spend money everyday, right?
I'm not good for giving an opinion. So, I'm sorry that I can help you a lot.. I wish you will have a best conclusion and will be no longer sad again ^^
@shila07 (514)
• Bhutan
27 Apr 07
No, still we have not talked nicely. I got hurt because, he shouted at me infront of his mother, so i donot like to talk to him as before, may what ever the result would be. THanks for the suggestion, Iam happy that i have learnt some thing from your response.
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
25 Apr 07
IS it a problem that your husband dosnt want you working in the first place? If not than he needs to grow up.surly he knows that in the work world sometimes people have to stay over late in there jobs.Maby if you have to stay over you could call and let them know you will be late due to having to work over.And than im not really sure why he dosnt see that anyone can be late home for many reasons traffic being the worst.
I guess I am not so much like you in worrying about him not talking to me I would tell him to get over it and grow up,If something little like that is causeing a not so good marriage i think you are having much deeper problems than just this.
@shila07 (514)
• Bhutan
27 Apr 07
May be he feels that i should not work, But you know, i have to work because i need to help my parents, brother/sisters as they are studying. I cant leave my job for him. He is not that understanding person. He also works in the National Hospital , when he gets late, i dont feel anything.
@envyash (85)
• India
25 Apr 07
Shila, please don't feel disheartened. Try to understand his point of view. Maybe he's just upset because he misses your company, and maybe that is his way of expressing his agony. Try to understand his point of view before you worry.
The next time you have to wait back at office, call him and tell him in advance, so that he is mentally prepared. Tell him that you're sorry and that you hate to stay away from him! Once you're home, even if he's still upset with you, just keep hugging him and telling him that you love him and you're sorry you had to keep him waiting. It should work!
And yeah - the next day, cook something special, and tell him you did it to compensate for the previous day!
@shila07 (514)
• Bhutan
27 Apr 07
HI friend, Thank you so much for the response and the suggestions.Yes, i try to talk and convince him but it doesnot work. NOw iam fed up.
Yes, before, i used to call him that i will be late but this time, my balance in my cell phone was nill, so i could not call him.
