ever feel trapped?

@Robyn28 (384)
Canada
April 25, 2007 2:43pm CST
Do u ever feel like the one you love can assume things in the end their going to be alone no matter how much you love them. You keep the problems inside and it kills you because you think I'm over reacting ,but sometimes there's some men who don't think before they speak. I can't stand that I try to hind there's something wrong ,but the hints are not listened to. I wish everything was back the way it used to be ,but we settled down and we don't talk anymore it's not good
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@mdchennai (2129)
• India
26 Apr 07
Well robin, i would suggest you to speak out your problem. If you dont like something with your partner then it is better that you complain about it. But see to it that you complain when your partner is in a good mood. Problems will get solved only when we speak out. Just telling him wont work, try to make him understand how you feel about it. Dont be much harsh while telling this, be soft and the things will be smooth :)
@Robyn28 (384)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
Hi I think we got everything sudtled. I told I think he's acting different and he's not telling me things. But I'm realizing that he keeps to himself that's the way he is. When I first met him he was open towards me said it was rare for him to be that open towards someone
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@mdchennai (2129)
• India
27 Apr 07
Well Robyn, i think that he should be atleast open to you. If he keeps everything within himself then he will always be tensed and will be ruining his life. Just try to explain him that you are there for him. Ask him to share all his sorrows with you and reduce the burden. I agree that he is not open, but you are his partner, so i think he can be open with you. After all you both are lovers and should face life together!
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I was in a 10 year relationship and as the years went by things were not they same.He starting changing and I didnt say anything to last year.I just let it all stay within and wouldnt talk and thinkg it would get better.I let it happen and thats why it kept being an ongoing thing.Its not good to hide it,talk out your problems.I know from experience.
@Robyn28 (384)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
hi I think the key is to talk about if something bothers u. I told him sometimes he doesn't think before he does things and so forth and he needs to open up to and tell me things. We just don't tell eachother things, he is to himself that's the way he is.
@barnkinney (1343)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
i haven't read all the responses yet.. the thing is, i can give you an advice but i'm not really sure what the problem is. and it would be very hypocrite of me if i would give an advice and i really can't do it myself. i sure can identify with how you were able to describe for this discussion. i do feel trapped. it seemd that your words are coming from me as well, except for the last sentence. it has most been like this most of the time, and the essence of being trapped kicks in, i just can't leave. it sure does look i'm over reacting, and it's really not easy to just talk. it seems to be not an option.. haay.. i will read more on this discussion and maybe pick something up.. hopefully. thanks!
@brokentia (10394)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Yes, my partner has gone very selfish. I have tried to talk to him, but there is no point. He does not really hear me. So like you, I just keep things in and let it eat away at me. Periodically, it will pour out and he will listen...but again, he does not really hear me. He will says things to pacify me, but he is still selfish and will do nothing to change the problems. Often times I feel that I would be happier alone. But we have seven children. So, that really is not an option. I hope that one day I will be happy. :)