how long do you stay available before getting a new relationship?
By daryljane
@daryljane (3406)
Philippines
April 25, 2007 9:15pm CST
after a break up, how long do you stay available before entering a new relationship? or do you tend to find a new love right away after a break up to help you forget..there are some that are doing that, and i did that at one point of my life, but the relationship didnt work...after a couple of months, i realize im still in love with the other guy i broke up ew months back and thats being unfair.. at the same time felt bad coz i hurt the guy, pretended that it will work but didnt.
after that experience, i make sure to heal the wounds first, and wait until i get ready to start for a new relationship.
3 responses
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
26 Apr 07
All depends on how traumatizing the break was. If the break was really that bad, then there is usually a tendency to put off relationships, to give a cooling off effect from the previous experiences. I would never jump into a new relationship after a break mainly because, there is a chance that you can mend the broken pieces and get back on track! Usually issues that bring about breaks could be reactions to the spur of the moment, after sometime, both parties would discover just how illogical their reason for the break was and they make up! Ofcourse we can not rule out deep seated and really hurtful reasons for the break, in this case take a long time to get back into another relationship!
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
the relationship actually laster for a year and half, but there are lots of memories shared..and yes, its a traumatic break up, the problem with me also is that i did not give myself ample time to heal wounds...as wans hurrying to getting another relationship...which is really a mistake.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
26 Apr 07
first of all let me tell u that i am not still into any relationship.then also i have seen my friends into relationship andv also duri ng when they breakup.i think u must give urself enough time to think what went wri=omng in the past. also in new ones u sud know very well what u want and are u right in this? After breakkup people want to hold someone they can rely on. its not always the same feeling of love but rebound.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
i agree! i learned about it in the past, i hurt someone there. and its sad..thats why i dont want to get into a new relationship after a break up.
@powersetting (231)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 07
It depends on how many years that i involved in the relationship
if the one i really love, and she hurted me so deep then i would say the time of getting recover can be a long period of time. Depends! :)
