what can you do if U want to break up you bf/gf without hurting his/r feeling?

@frodloo (424)
Indonesia
April 26, 2007 3:00am CST
this girl/guy is your gf/bf and now you feel that you fell out love on her/him but she/he is too good to you since yuo are start your relationship.what can you do ?
9 responses
@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
27 Apr 07
Well I don't pray such things comes my way, but I don't think I will ever break up with someone I love, cos it will mean I din't really love that person at the beginning, but if I want to break up with someone I mistakenly had relationsip with, I will start staying away from her bit by bit and she will understand I am no longer interested in her.
@frodloo (424)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 07
hm .. staying away is not good to do. must be gentleman guys .... and i`m sure that is mostly hurting our partner`s feeling. the best way i do is talk more slowly and let her/him be more patient with me ... have nice day yups ;)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
just say... "It's not you... It's me..." thats very effective
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@frodloo (424)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 07
but how .... it almost hurting them absolutely LOL. do you have any idea shiela ? have nice day ;)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
no matter what is the style breaking is still hurt and a very difficult task to do. but if thats what have to happen, let it be. Talk to her/him sincerely , eventhough it hurts you have to let them know what you feel.
@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
26 Apr 07
ahh, that's a toughie. I have been in this situation and have tortured myself between sticking with him or breaking up. I did not want to hurt his feelings because I know he did not deserve it, but I realized that I did not love him anymore. I just stopped talking to him and avoiding him. I realize now that was not the best thing to do it. I wish I can take it back. You might need to actually tell him how you feel. It would not be fair to him for you to stay in the relationship if you don't love him anymore. The sooner you do it, the sooner he can recover and move on.
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@frodloo (424)
• Indonesia
28 Apr 07
yeah, do we need to lie with her/him about our feeling ? i think, lie will needed sometime when we want to finish our relationship. thank you for your comment.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I don't think there is a way not to hurt his feelings. If the person has been really good to you since the start of the relationship then I think that that person really likes you. If you would like to break up with this person it is very difficult, you will eventually hurt him.her, and based on my friend's experience, it won't be easy either for him/her to stay friends with you since it would hurt him even to see you.. But it is better not to prolong the relationship if in the end, you will still end up breaking up with him.
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I think you can never break with someone without hurting his feelings. All breakups and goodbyes always come with pain, dont hesitate to say goodbye as long as your sure about it, because you will make him hope that you still love or like him when you stay in your relationship.
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@zjenikka (292)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
"Honesty is best policy" just be honest with her that you wanna call it quits... we know it will hurt her but it is much more painful to stick with her evn though you wanna go...
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@jay_em93 (99)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Breaking up with someone is hard to do. However hard you to try to make him or her understand it would still break her or his heart so what you should do is just get over it as soon as possible. Flowery words will only make things worst, usually sour graping or blaming someone is what others usually do just so their conscience will not be badly hurt.
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• Philippines
28 Apr 07
there is no way i won't hurt her feelings, i know! we've been together for almost 3 years. i can't find any reason to break up with her now. but if i were to do that.. i will just tell her the reason why im breaking up with her. if there is someone else, i'll tell it directly. eventually, she will also know abt it. might as well tell her the truth!