If your spouse cheated, would you take him/her back?

United States
April 26, 2007 1:19pm CST
If your spouse cheated, would you take him/her back?
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8 responses
• United States
26 Apr 07
Well if I had children with him, he would have a better chance of me taking him back then if we didn't have children together. If I didn't have children with him, I would KICK him to the curve forever!
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• United States
26 Apr 07
If you need help kicking him to the curb, you just let me know. I love helping my friends.
@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I don't think cheating is the worst thing in the world, but whether or not to take him back would depend on a lot of things, so it's hard to answer. Right now I'm leaning towards no, but it's a hard question.
• India
26 Apr 07
I agree sumwat with you.. it does depends on a lot of things.. LOVE... wud be one of them..
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• United States
26 Apr 07
Karen, if you ever needed help making the decision, I will be glad to help. :)
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@supersach (1523)
• India
27 Apr 07
No. I always believe in giving people a second because we all make mistakes chance but not in love. Marriage is a relationship based on mutual trust and faith and, once that is broken, there is no point in taking such person back.
• United States
27 Apr 07
I hear you.
• United States
27 Apr 07
No way! Once I found out my ex had cheated on me I let him go. Of course our marriage was pretty rocky in the end with all of his abuse but I wasn't about to let him think he could get away with it.
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• United States
27 Apr 07
I think when you stand up for yourself, you feel better.
• United States
27 Apr 07
it depends on the situation if he owned up to everything and didnt try to lie or deny anything and seemed to be honest about it as well as being extremely sorry for it i would consider. if this looks like a reoccuring kind of thing then no it would be too hard and stressful wondering if he is out cheating. i cheated on my boyfriend 5 years ago and have not even laid eyes on another man since then i was sorry for it and it wont happen again, he took me back and he pretty much trusts me now. it really depends on the situation though if he was seeing the same girl for a few or more times then it would be worse than maybe just a one night stand at a bar. i dont know it just varies a great deal you have to see if you can get the trust back because if you lose it its hard to repair a broken relationship and heart :(
• United States
27 Apr 07
Thank you for your thoughts.
@limcyjain (3523)
• India
27 Apr 07
I dont expect my spouse would ever cheat me but if he does i dont think so i would be able to carry the relationship any longer. Once the basic thing trust is missing it is really difficult to carry on. Even if we decide to carry on that love and happiness would be missing.
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• United States
27 Apr 07
So so true.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
I it happens to me, it would be very hurting. I really dont know what will i do. theres a lot of reflecting to do in order to decide whether i would take him back or not. but if it happens the first time, maybe i can but it will take a long time for me to give him the trust because he might do it again. but i still have to hear his side and the reasons why he did that. there might be something wrong with our marriage?
• United States
27 Apr 07
If he did it because there was something wrong in your marriage, then I think he should have come to you before and said that there is something wrong BEFORE he cheats.
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
if i can see and feel he is really sincere and how sorry he was, and that i can feel that he loves me and most specially..if i feel i still love him and that ive already forgiven him and forgot what had happend before and that i can feel we can have a much better relationship again....then why not...i would still take him back.